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I feel bored and lazy (new SAHM)

mdearringtonmdearrington
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My babies aren't hear yet. I just moved to a new area, so I don't know many moms or moms to be.

I liked being SAH for the first few weeks but now I am so sick of cleaning. I feel like I need something more to look forward too. 

Did any of yall go through this in the transition to SAHM?

I know I won't feel this way once the babies come. I already feel a bond with them when I can lay down and just feel them inside of me kicking away. I know that SAH right now is so beneficial to me and the babies. OB said that I am not experiencing a lot of BH's is because I do SAH. How do I cope and make these feelings pass. I also think I am feeling like this because my hormones are on the rise.

Thanks ladies!

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Re: I feel bored and lazy (new SAHM)

  • myantoniamyantonia
    I had several months off before my DS arrived and I felt the same way.  I would say (as much as you can, since I know it's hard to do) just enjoy the time you've got now because with twins you won't have much!  I tried to be productive in some way everyday.  Cleaned a specific thing, made a freezer meal, made a special meal for my DH, ran an errand, etc.  I actually saved up errands and spread them out through the week so I'd have something to do every day.  
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  • spartansuzispartansuzi

    A friend of mine (a long time SAHM) gave me a wonderful piece of advice and I thank her so much for it: do something for you and take it seriously. I got my yoga teaching certification and found a working from home (very part time) job. I know other moms that just practice yoga every day (or week) or study a language, or run a blog/website- something to give you a project. It gets harder to keep these things up when the babies come, but it helps you keep your identity and gives you something to talk about with other adults aside from baby-world!

    For now- REST! And enjoy the quiet :)

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  • tabi_jatabi_ja

    Until the babies arrive, try to get out of the house every day, even if it's just to go to a local coffee shop and nurse a Chai for an hour.  Just being out among people is helpful (at least for me).  Once your LOs get here, try to get out of the house at least once a week, if you can manage it.  Run errands, go walk around the mall - just get out of the house.

    Also, look into a Mom's group of some sort, or join a club (check out Meetup.com).  When I first moved to KC, I joined a book club, and it really helped me get over my loneliness. 

    GL! 

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  • speters83speters83

     I am due early January and am in a smiliar boat. I have lived in my area for a couple years but the couple of friends I have made work fulltime. My sil told me about The Mommies Network. Here is a site to see if there is one in your area. https://www.themommiesnetwork.org/locations.php I started going even though I was only pregnant to get to know the other moms and they welcomed me with open arms. I just try to stick to coffee at peoples house or mother night in/out for the time being.

    I know how it feels to be sick of cleaning! Also being 35 weeks along I don't want to be cleaning. In July I started taking a prenatal water aerobic class biweekly. This will be ending soon because of the holidays. On certain days I do grocery shopping and other errands. I try pacing myself since I end up getting tired very quickly. I also made a huge batch of freezer meals. I make dinner every weeknight. I still have to get my act together and get a couple things done before the baby comes. I have a really hard time sleeping in the night so I do end taking a brief nap during the day. Somehow my days seem to get filled with things to do.

    I have to say sometimes I feel bad that I am not doing as much I usually would and that dh works crazy hours because of what is going on at work lately. Hopefully only one more week of his hours. I know when the little one comes I will be much busier. Also I know dh appreciates everything I do.

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  • skiwic8skiwic8
    Thank you for posting this!  I just came over her for the first time.  I am an unexpected SAHW soon to be SAHM. I was laid off from my job last week and have decided it probably makes the most sense for me to not go back to work until later.  But I struggle with this decision every day.  I have worked in some capacity since I was 12 years old.  I am glad I am not alone and I have really appreciated the responses I just read to this post. 
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  • BarnesoBarneso

    Appreciating the posts here.

    I have become very lazy.  I am fatigued often, because of the pregnancy, but I think I "take it easy" too often.

    I'm also in the boat where I haven't had any BH Contractions yet... Interesting thought that it's because we are home (less stress).

     

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  • wifeandmamawifeandmama member
    It'll be much, much different once you have kids in the house.  The differences between being a SAHW and SAHM are huge!!!
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  • jen5-03jen5-03 member
    Do you have a Mother's of Multiples group near you? If so join now and meet people. My BFF has twins and got SO much support from them.
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