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Delivery room ?

frenchy_207frenchy_207
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Who do you plan on having in the delivery room with you?

DH of course but I would also like my mother to be there. DH is kind of iffy about my mom being in the room. Bu,t she is a nurse and she actually went to school to be a baby nurse (she works in surgery now).

 WWYD?

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  • bananasmommabananasmomma
    With my DD, it was just DH and I.  This time, it will be me, DH and my mom.  l'd explain to your DH why you want her there and find out his reasons for not wanting her there.
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  • inlovewowinlovewow
    DH and I actually talked about this.  At first I only wanted DH in there b/c it's the moment of our new family and I want him helping me every step of the way.  However, DH seems to think he won't be able to handle it and wouldn't mind if my Mom was there.  Of course I'd love for my Mom to be by my side, but I really think DH should handle this one on his own. 
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  • goldenleavesgoldenleaves member
    It will be me, my DH and my twin sister. I don't mind having my mom and my MIL up there (they'll have to rotate b/c of visitor restrictions), but once it comes time to push or I'm in serious pain the moms get kicked out.
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  • prlmrg08prlmrg08
    it will be me, dh and a birth photographer. If the photographer doesnt make it in time then my mom will step in to take pictures.
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  • NELCORPNELCORP

    It's going to be DH, my mama, and my sister. Maybe you could explain how you feel to him about the comfort of your mother being there.

    But I'm very blunt, so my response would be...since I'm pushing this baby out it's my decision who I want in there to make me comfortable.

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  • kimberleigh30kimberleigh30 member

    It will just be DH and I. 

    I understand you wanting your mom in the room with you, but if your Husband doesn't feel right about it, I'd give it another thought.

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  • nealblnealbl member

    We are allowed three people. So DH obviously and then my mom MIL and BF are going to trade in and out. When it comes down to actually pushing her out it will just be DH and me.

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  • BoizmomBoizmom member

    I'd say it's up to you.  Whatever makes you comfortable and if you feel you may need her, then go for it. 

    With my first I had no idea what I was doing and planned on my SIL being there with me.  I ended up with a c-section though.  With my second I wanted a VBAC and really wanted my SIL there with me.  My husband never batted an eye at the idea of his brother's wife being in the delivery room with us.  He understood that I was scared and wanted as much support I could get.  He was actually grateful in the end that she was there because when he froze up she was there to help me and to talk to him and get him to relax so he could help me.  I have already asked her to be there again with me this time.  We're really close, more like real sister close then SILs.  This time I am having a med free birth and I know that I will need here again.  

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  • whitward87whitward87

    My DH knows my mother will be there no matter what and he is totally fine with that. Maybe he is worried she will get in the way or he will feel left out? Let him know how important it is to you, if he realizes that, he shouldn't have a problem with it.

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  • SaranJonathanSaranJonathan member
    i just plan to have DH and I
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  • LittleMamaBLittleMamaB
    Probably my husband and my mom. As much as I hate to pull this card (and I never had to because my husband was fine with my mom being in the room), I would just say, "I'm the patient and, in the end, the final choice is mine. If I want my mother to be there, she will".
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  • sheparlisheparli

    I would just ask him why he felt this way and go from there. Just be open and honest about it b/c this is a special time for you two and that's the main thing.

     I will have my DH, mom and dad during early labor but once things get going it will just be me and DH.

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  • zeptattoozeptattoo member
    I'm suprised you guys are getting a chioce.  The hospitals in my area are all on lockdown.  Except for the "support person" (which mine is DH) there is no one allowed even in the waiting room.  Its all due to H1N1 and regular flu season.
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  • shadowboxerkdshadowboxerkd member

    It'll just be me and DH. He is adamant that he wants it to be just b/w the 2 of us b/c it's that special intimate moment when we become a family. I mentioned it to my mom, thinking she'd be disappointed, but apparently not. She was adamantly against being in there for the same reason. She said she always thought it was weird how people have other family members in there and that she strongly believes it should be something experienced just between the new parents. So I guess that's one drama averted.

     DH is actually still pissed about SS's birth b/c his ex-wife knew how he felt but when the time came, he kind of got pushed aside. She said he wasn't doing a good enough job and she wanted her sister there. Poor guy :(. Knowing him, he was probably trying his best, and just didn't know how to comfort her to her liking. He's also pissed b/c she's since written a book and talks about how "ineffective" he was. I promised him that I won't publish anything negative about him in the future. haha

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