1st Trimester

Pregnancy books and the internet have made us all crazy.

You can't wash your face with the soap you've been using for decades.

You can't eat lunchmeat, even if it's from a place you've eaten lunchmeat from EVERY day for years.

You can't smoke or be around smokers - just one cigarette will cause an unhealthy baby.

You can't have caffeine.  None. 

Don't you dare eat fish.  Especially tuna.

 

Feel free to flame me - I'm grumpy today anyway, but seriously, if all these things were true, would ANY of us be here today?  You really think your mom didn't do some (or all) of the things on that list while you were in her womb??  I'm not saying to go have a sushi festival or to chain smoke a pack of cigarettes.  I'm just saying that I feel like pregnancy is something to be enjoyed and cherished - not spent being horribly paranoid over every little thing that the book says "might" be bad for you.  Don't get me wrong.  I'm cautious about the things I allow to enter my body.  However, if I want a freaking tuna sandwich, I'm going to eat it, darn it!  And if I can't stand the pimples on my face anymore, I'm washing my face with Neutrogena.  And at this moment, I'm sipping my wonderful 1/2 cup of dunkin donuts coffee with vanilla cream.    

*stepping off soap box*

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Re: Pregnancy books and the internet have made us all crazy.

  • You're so right though.

    'Back in the day' they partied like rockstars while pregnant - and well, most of us are functioning adults.

    I know my mom smoked while I was in the womb...not that I think it was a good idea (I'm nto even a smoker) but I do think we go a little overboard sometimes.

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  • I love it!  I agree as well!
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  • i totally agree! we have all become paranoid!! though i'm more on the cautious side, i don't want to be controlled by books and the Internet that just pretend to have new information in order to make $$.

     you say it sister!

  • I totally agree. I am cautious and my lifestyle is changing, but my life is not on hold.
  • Agreed. As I sit here and enjoy my Dr.Pepper. Being pregnant is just like anything else, moderation! But some people spaz and take it too far. I don't have the time or energy for that kind of crazy.
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  • I compeltely agree. I know that ever since I got pregnant I've basically cut all caffeine, but it's not good for me either so...but other than that, seriously, some of the book and things to push things to the extreme. As long as your physically careful, Half the things they say you can't have or can't do, is total crap. Even MW's, OB's and things will tell you that half the crap is so not true...
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  • ITA. I'm so much better about this baby than I was with Noah. I do worry about mercury and smoke, but that's it. If I did it pre-pregnancy, I do it now. Lol
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  • No one is saying not to eat a tuna sandwich, just not to eat them everyday.  :)  

    Things were different when our mothers were pregnant and I'm sure when our kids are having children some of the things we do now will be wrong.

    Everything in moderation and it will all be fine.   

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  • I agree with everything you just said!  My mom was like, "I don't remember all these restrictions when I was pregnant........."
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  • I still drink coffee every day, but now I limit myself to one cup.

    I still eat fish. I just don't eat it every day.

    I'm planning to get my hair highlighted in the next few days.

    I still eat brie and goat cheese.

    I ate raw cake batter 2 days ago.

    I don't eat much lunch meat to begin with, and I prefer warm sandwiches, so that's not really an issue for me.

    The only things I'm really cutting out are alcohol and raw sushi from places that I'm not 100% sure about.

  • Let me just add to the ridiculousness list

    -Peanut Butter

    -Colouring your hair

    -CEASAR SALAD (yes, this one made me mad and i flipped out)

    -Spinach Dip

    -Sourghdogh bread.

    Just to name a few things I nodded politely at and went my own way with. Honestly, No one does pregnancy like the arm chair critics.

     

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    You're so right though.

    'Back in the day' they partied like rockstars while pregnant - and well, most of us are functioning adults.

    I know my mom smoked while I was in the womb...not that I think it was a good idea (I'm nto even a smoker) but I do think we go a little overboard sometimes.

    Same as me and I agree!

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  • Amen!!

    I even started using my real deoderant again today - I'm sure my students will appreciate that!  I bought everything organic the minute I got my BFP...

    I've relaxed a bit about some things...and can't even imagine what other restrictions there could be years from now- they will probably go back to how our parents were...maybe they'll make a fancy pregnancy bubble that you have to be in from BFP to birth...

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    Let me just add to the ridiculousness list

    -Peanut Butter

    -Colouring your hair

    -CEASAR SALAD (yes, this one made me mad and i flipped out)

    -Spinach Dip

    -Sourghdogh bread.

    Just to name a few things I nodded politely at and went my own way with. Honestly, No one does pregnancy like the arm chair critics.

     

    Sourdough? Really? I was craving that the other day. That is insane. 

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  • I looove my diet pepsi and coke zero.  I crave subway subs, both this pregnancy and last.  As long as I'm not eating this stuff every day, I'm ok with it.

    That being said, I don't really agree with the mentality of "our parents did it and we turned out fine".  There are a LOT of things that have changed for the better that wern't around, or that we didn't know the dangers of when we were kids.

  • imageCeltic Ember:

    Honestly, No one does pregnancy like the arm chair critics.

    Yes. 

    Someone on here had a picture of a shirt that said: "Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I want your advice."

    Some of it is scary. Sure. It's rare and it's horrific and it's scary. But I don't want my life--or my child's--ruled by fear. I try to approach all the advice with an open-mind, common sense, a bit of research, and then make my own decision. It's the best you can do.

    (Also...being a cat owner and being pregnant. If one (!!!) more person comments on this they might get b!tch slapped)


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  • Yep, just use common sense.  I eat lunchmeat and I'm proud.  I have caffiene when I want and whatever seafood I want when I want. 

    I'm so much less paranoid this time around.

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  • WTEWYE is the biggest load of crappola I have ever read.

  • Cheers!

    it seems today the rates of autism and birth defects are higher despite all of the crazy new rules.

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  • Except for not smoking or drinking alcohol, I'm not a stickler for most things.  I've seen the effects of fetal alcohol syndrome, and the effects of smoking are well studied.  Everything else seems a little over the top.

  • I think we should all light up!

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  • Yes

    DH was like I wonder if in another generation "they" will say no drinking for your partner either b/c if he drinks and you have sex the drinking can effect his sperm and come inside of you and hurt the baby.  I was cracking up.  All of our friends smoke and so does DH sometimes and they are all out in the garage hanging out and watching a game I am not going to sit inside all by myself while everyone is having fun!  Boo a lame mommy causes health defects too:)






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    WTEWYE is the biggest load of crappola I have ever read.

     HAHA yes. thank you. I haven't finished it because I got too annoyed. I liked Belly Laughs though lol ;)

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  • I feel ya! While I am cautious with some thing, I have to draw the line with others. No drinking or smoking, but I do wash my face with "harsh" cleansers, I do eat ceaser salad, and I definitely use deordorant!
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  • My sister LIVED on tuna during both her pregnancies 12 and 13 years ago. That's all she craved. She had tuna salad, tuna sandwiches and plain tuna several times a week. She was fine, her kids were fine.

    While I do believe we should be cautious, some people are WAY over the top too cautious.

  • Thanks for the common sense.  This is my first and it's easy to get lost in the dos and don'ts and forget that all of us survived this far.  And it's nice to know that I'm not the only one that started thinking that WTEWYE would make better kindling than reading material.
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