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Help! Tips on "Crying it Out"?

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So LO is falling into a bad pattern of not sleeping in his crib.  He was sleeping at least 2 hours at the beginning of the night, then he would co-sleep the rest of the night.  Then he started only staying in his crib for 45 minutes before getting fussy.  Now, it's hit or miss whether or not he'll even stay down in his crib at all.  He is 15 lbs and way too heavy to keep sleeping on my chest in bed with me every night!  Last night I was so frustrated and swore that tonight I would start letting him cry it out before checking on him.  My mom suggested letting him go for 15 minutes before going in his room.  Any other suggestions from you would be GREATLY appreciated!!  TIA!!!
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Re: Help! Tips on "Crying it Out"?

  • NDwife07NDwife07

    Have you read any books or techniques?

    Try the No Cry Sleep Solution, if you're looking for a non-CIO plan.

    Ferber is popular but I can't in good faith endorse it.

    GL!

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  • AutumnBride929AutumnBride929
    I wouldn't do it.
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  • SoHopefulSoHopeful
    i think 3 months is too early to start CIO.  and i definitely wouldn't let LO cry for 15 minutes.  i think you just have to pick him up (and feed if necessary)....at least that's what i would do.
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  • mrsmelmrsmel member

    i don't think you should resort to cio yet...he's too young.

    i'd say stop giving into the bed first. when he fusses, go in and sooth him, but then put him back down in his crib. if it's your bed he's wanting, you aren't going to break that habit by taking him in there every night the first time he cries.

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  • UrbanHippieMamaUrbanHippieMama
    I personally don't agree with CIO, especially since your LO is only three months, but my suggestion is read a book before doing it.
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  • jk09uhed89jk09uhed89
    all i can say is please read the books before trying it out and wait till the recommended age to start trying it
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  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick

    Caution:  You will most likely get flamed for this post!

    While I am an advocate of CIO, it is super fast and works great, I do think your DS is too young.  I recommend waiting until his 4 mo appt and talkign to your pedi about when is a right time to start, and IF he is ready to start.  This is what I did with both of my DC's and it helped a lot.  And my pedi definitely knew best, both were sleep trained quickly and easily by following his advice.

    Good luck!

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  • mavilabridemavilabride member

    Persistance is key.  If you want him to sleep in his crib, he has to sleep in his crib.  Not go for 2 hours and cosleep the rest of the night.

    If you are not working, then I would try the pick up/put down method (if you are working, wait until the weekend).  Put him down in his crib awake, and step away out of his sight.  When he cries, pick him up soothe a little and put him back down.  It may take you all night but he will get used to it.  That's what we did with DD and I can now put her down awake, leave the room, and after a few minutes she falls asleep without crying.

    I wouldn't let him CIO until he's closer to 4 months but that's JMO.

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  • erinjciancioloerinjcianciolo
    CIO definitely works, but your LO is FAR too young to even think about using this on.  soothe him and put him back in his crib until he stays there.
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  • MrsJYMrsJY member
    Is he just fussy or does he actually start crying? I know with our LO is he is just fussy, I can soothe him and turn on his Sleep Sheep and he'll go back to sleep. I did last night and he ended up sleeping for 10 hours! As for CIO, I don't really have any advice - I would suggest reading up on it more.
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  • kes3237kes3237
    I love Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child.  He does advocate CIO but says other sleep methods, like rocking, are fine, too.  Just be consistent.  I would read this book then make a plan.  Maybe rethink CIO in a month?
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  • beckytrbeckytr member
    I did a modified cio to get ds to fall asleep, not sttn but first I read healthy sleep habits, happy child & discussed it with ds's pediatrician.  i recommend reading a book & talking to your dr about it first (our pedi advocates cio, but she talked to me about how ds was eating, etc. first to make sure he wasn't crying for another reason besides not wanting to fall asleep himself in his crib) .  GL.
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  • ChrysallysChrysallys member
    imageNDwife07:

    Have you read any books or techniques?

    Try the No Cry Sleep Solution, if you're looking for a non-CIO plan.

    Ferber is popular but I can't in good faith endorse it.

    GL!

    This. Besides, your DS is too young to CIO.

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  • eeclemeeclem
    Going from cosleeping after 45 min to letting LO CIO seems like a huge jump to me. What else have you tried?
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  • BrookeNicole09BrookeNicole09
    We did CIO but you should not do it that young. Four months is the absolute minimum, and even then you should read much more into it than a message board to figure out why it works and how.
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  • flutenewtflutenewt
    My DS is 20lbs and still sleeps with us every night and I don't really notice the weight.  Have your tried propping him or your arms up with pillows?  Does DH ever take turns holding him? Does he have to sleep on your chest?  Why can't he just sleep on the bed between the two of you?  If his weight is really your only reason for not wanting him to sleep with you, there are intermediate solutions and I don't think it's necessary to kick him all the way to the crib.  
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  • jolis_petits_bijouxjolis_petits_bijoux
    He's too young to CIO.  Let him continue to sleep with you.  Try putting him next to you, instead of on your chest.
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  • Jen&Joe06Jen&Joe06 member
    We are having problems getting B to sleep in his crib so I am reading No Cry Sleep Solution and then we will come up with a plan of attack. Have you tried letting him nap in his crib to get used to it?
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  • afgafg member

    Do some research - it's not just letting them cry and that's it.  Plus, 3 months is too young - Ferber and other experts say that.

    I will not CIO.

    Remember that you are the one who started this habit of bringing him into bed with you so it's only natural that he wants to keep it going. 

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  • Mrs.TeddyMrs.Teddy member

    I am not a fan of CIO at all.

    We do drowsy but awake & sometimes I have to go back in and pick him up to soothe him but often he just goes to sleep no crying.

    If he is used to sleeping on your chest he may be used to tummy sleeping. Have you tried letting him sleep on his tummy in his crib if you are comfortable with that? I have an angel care monitor and if L slept better that way I would let him sleep like that. Good Luck

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  • gwenypher7gwenypher7 member

    We do not CIO, but LO sleeps consistently through the night. I never did any "Sleep training" - just modified a few things to make it easier for her to know it's time to sleep.

    This is what I did:

    1. I started making sure that she CONSISTENTLY had full naps during the day. At least an hour long each- usually 3 or 4 naps. I swaddle her for these

    2. I started a bedtime routine that includes a bath and a bottle afterwards. I have her swaddled during her feeding.

    3. I started putting her to bed earlier. I used to put her to bed at 9-10pm. Now it's between 7  and 8 - and she STILL sleeps longer!

     Sometimes DD will "fuss" after being in bed for about 20 minutes, but I wait it out for 60 seconds and it stops. It's like she needs to fuss to fall into a deep sleep. If it turns into a full-out cry, I go to her crib and let her see me and shhh her. She always goes right back to sleep.

    If you are going to use a sleep training method, I suggest you find a book on one rather than trying to wing it. People have done major studies on sleep in babies.

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  • gwenypher7gwenypher7 member
    Oh - one more thing! Like pp said: do not be afraid to put him down drowsy but awake! I was always so scared once her eyes popped open and would pick her right back up - but give your LO a chance to show you he can put himself to sleep!
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  • ShleiShlei
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    Persistance is key.  If you want him to sleep in his crib, he has to sleep in his crib.  Not go for 2 hours and cosleep the rest of the night.

    If you are not working, then I would try the pick up/put down method (if you are working, wait until the weekend).  Put him down in his crib awake, and step away out of his sight.  When he cries, pick him up soothe a little and put him back down.  It may take you all night but he will get used to it.  That's what we did with DD and I can now put her down awake, leave the room, and after a few minutes she falls asleep without crying.

    I wouldn't let him CIO until he's closer to 4 months but that's JMO.

     

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