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My SIL is pregnant (Long)

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It's not ideal circumstances either. She's only 20, her boyfriend is only 19. They're both in the middle of college. It happened after one time of unprotected sex. Just the fact that she was sexually active would have rocked the family much less that she's now pregnant.

I love her totally. She's like a sister to me. We're all supporting her, we're gonna be there for her. We know she's scared and in shock and that her whole life plan is going to now be changed. I'm being sensitive to her and helping her out with some practical pregnancy things that no one else has thought of like pre-natals and dr appointments but I'm having a real hard time with this.

I can't help being kinda pissed. After this whole year of trying and then getting pregnant, miscarrying and now making it this far, I was really enjoying things finally working the way they were supposed to. And to top it off, my EDD would have been yesterday. She found out yesterday. DH called me right after I had gotten a text from my MIL asking if I had picked nursery colors. Needless to say, I didn't get a chance to talk to MIL about it.

Any advice on ways to support her and how to deal with all this that I'm feeling?

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Re: My SIL is pregnant (Long)

  • mrstarawalshmrstarawalsh member
    I understand where you're coming from. In 2008 I had 3 m/c's back to back. After my second I found out the my younger sister, who was 16 at the time, was pregnant with her first. A few months after that I found out my other sister was pregnant, at 19, with her second. Both shared one of my due dates. It was horrible. I think you're doing a good job supporting her. She must be so scared. In time you'll get over your hurt and anger about it. After the initial shock is over, I'm sure you'll start being excited for her even with the circumstances.
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