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The newest comment I get when I am out with my twins...

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for the first 3 months, they were the same size so we got a lot of, "oh my gosh! they must be twins!" comments.  Now, he is much larger (by 3 pounds) so I am getting a lot of, "how much older is he?" comments.

I guess they think one belongs to me, and one belongs to my husband, and that we're not married, but just hanging out with our respective babies?

And then when people learn that they are twins, they go..."oh my! he is so big!" and "oh my, she is so small!"  Really?

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Re: The newest comment I get when I am out with my twins...

  • raesueraesue
    I get the same comments.  My DS is 10 lbs bigger than my DD so we constantly get questioned about how old they are.  People are shocked to hear that they're twins and DD is actually the older one! 
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  • lisa&andylisa&andy
    That comment has just started, only DD is the one that is 3lbs heavier. DH really wants to say that one is his and one is mine just to see the reaction. I'm of the mentality some days that you ask a stupid question, you'll get a stupid answer.
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  • sfitz0711sfitz0711

    imageMrsLee04:
    The best part is once they learn they are twins the subsequent response is always "oh well she must be the older one!"  Nope, wrong again!  I always wonder why people think that the older twin is automatically bigger.  Do they really think they get a head start on gaining weight in those first few minutes?

     

    LOL what a good point!! 

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    Yeah, people are silly. One of my twins is 2 lbs heavier and about an inch taller than the other. So people have gone from "Wow they look so much alike!" to "They're twins? Really?? But that one's bigger!" There is no way he looks 9+ months bigger! (And then of course there's still the occasional person who says "I don't know how you tell them apart!" Despite the size difference, different hair color, different noses, eyes, etc. ...)
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  • Rose.9.6.03Rose.9.6.03 member
    The same thing happens to me.  When they were little, people often thought Evelyn was older because she was the bigger (weight-wise) baby.  Now that they are toddlers and weigh basically the same, people assume that Charlotte is older because she's got more than a inch in height on Evelyn. 
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  • sunnybrook.sunnybrook. member

    imagelisa&andy:
    That comment has just started, only DD is the one that is 3lbs heavier. DH really wants to say that one is his and one is mine just to see the reaction. I'm of the mentality some days that you ask a stupid question, you'll get a stupid answer.

    I know I'm in the minority, but I don't think asking if they're twins is a stupid question. Even if they were the same size, asking if they're twins is reasonable. There are so many scenarios other than twins that it could be. One could be adopted, one biological, both adopted, one or both foster children, etc. Maybe b/c I'm a foster parent with children coming and going or b/c I hang out on the adoption board, but I'm very sensitive to the fact that families are composed of children that are not just biological. I think asking shows more sensitivity to today's unique families.

    There are tons of other reasonable scenarios it could be - one child is yours and your babysitting the other; you're babysitting both from different families; one is yours and the other is a step-child, etc. 

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  • Temp159135562506975Temp159135562506975 member

    we get a lot of "are they twins??" because Gibby is almost 4lbs bigger than Gray now... and they look NOTHING alike.

    I can understand the comment--- i COULD be babysitting one, or with a friend who is not standing right there and she has one, etc... so of all the dumb twin comments- i don't think this one is too bad- esp since mine are so different.

     

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  • lisa&andylisa&andy
    imagesunnybrook.:

    imagelisa&andy:
    That comment has just started, only DD is the one that is 3lbs heavier. DH really wants to say that one is his and one is mine just to see the reaction. I'm of the mentality some days that you ask a stupid question, you'll get a stupid answer.

    I know I'm in the minority, but I don't think asking if they're twins is a stupid question. Even if they were the same size, asking if they're twins is reasonable. There are so many scenarios other than twins that it could be. One could be adopted, one biological, both adopted, one or both foster children, etc. Maybe b/c I'm a foster parent with children coming and going or b/c I hang out on the adoption board, but I'm very sensitive to the fact that families are composed of children that are not just biological. I think asking shows more sensitivity to today's unique families.

    There are tons of other reasonable scenarios it could be - one child is yours and your babysitting the other; you're babysitting both from different families; one is yours and the other is a step-child, etc. 

    I'm sorry if I offended you and I do agree that there are other scenarios, but when I get the twin question, the kids are in matching/same outfits, in a double stroller, both DH and I are present and they are in matching infant carriers, to me they are all things that scream twins. I typically have no problem being nice and answering their questions, but somedays I am needing to get in and out of a store because the kids need to be fed, changed, and/or having meltdowns. Have I ever smarted off? No, I do not have the guts to do it, do I think it? Yes. It is by far not the worst question we have ever been asked, but it is annoying none the less.

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  • dtwmcodtwmco

    imagelisa&andy:
    I typically have no problem being nice and answering their questions, but somedays I am needing to get in and out of a store because the kids need to be fed, changed, and/or having meltdowns..

    I find THIS to be the main issue.  Just because I'm with my twins doesn't mean that I don't have things to do.  Being stopped every 10 feet by people who just HAVE to talk to me about my twins drives me crazy...  Why do so many people think it's their business, anyway, to know if they are identical/fraternal, who is bigger/older, who is more easygoing, etc.?

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  • lrrblrrb
    I get asked if my girls are twins all the time.  They are 5 months apart and look NOTHING alike.  My older girl is about 7lbs bigger than my little one and one is blonde and one is red, but non the less EVERYONE thinks they are twins.  I like to say they are 5 months apart and let people think that through.  Anyways I dress them identical EVERYDAY bc its just plain cute so just because you dress them the same and have matching everything doesn't always mean twins....it doesn't to me at least! =)   I think its kind of fun to have "twins" but not real "twins" I feel very blessed! =)

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