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For those that get along with their IL's
Have you always gotten along? If not, how did you find something in common and a way to make it work? I try to talk to MIL about general things (movies, work, tv shows, etc.) and she just answers me, she doesn't reciprocate with any questions. So, just curious how do you make it work with your ILs?
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Re: For those that get along with their IL's
MIL and I go to lunch 1 or 2 times a month
and i found out I dont like shopping with her though hahahah
I no longer get along with my Inlaws-we tollorate one another. Before Dh and I were married (1.5yr ago) we got along great, lots of interaction and kindness. Once we got married they changed and stopped treating Dh and I like family...more like casual friends they have to talk to.
I'd like to get along....I'll take ideas too!
I'm not on this board yet, but... I do LOVE my in laws. I found a good way to talk more with my MIL (my hubby is Filipino so there is a bit of a language barrier between us) is to ask for help or advice. Not something that is super important, but like I have asked her if she could teach me how to make some Filipino food and she loved doing that.
Perhaps ask her to teach you to make your husbands favorite dish, or something like that? Or ask her for advice about something like how to get a stain out or how to do something around the house etc. Just something that she will have to talk more but will feel like you are trying to come to her for advice, people love to feel needed!
This is how it is for us too. MIL barely speaks to DH even. He calls her and she never calls him back. She'll text him saying, oh sorry wasn't near my phone, but never actually returns his call.
So you dated your husband's sister's ex-husband? Small world!
Yep! He is actually the one who introduced me to DH.
we don't live near my IL, so we only see them a few times a year. however, they are currently staying with us for the month off December, so we could put of day care until January.
I wanted to kill them when they were visiting for baby watch 2009 - they came a week before my due date, I didn't go until 5 days after. Now? they are super helpful and love my LO. I couldn't live with out them visting us right now.
We aren't interested in all the same things, but we both like to read and get pedis. And there is always yoru LO and DH to talk about!
I didn't initially get along with my MIL, sadly. Our engagement was fraught with emotional roller coaster drama and I think it had a lot to do with it being her 1st child getting married, and that she just didn't know me well enough (they are midwestern, and everyone knows everyone where they live).
Once we were married, my MIL brightened up to me significantly, but it took a while (maybe a year or two) for us to have conversations. I think the first time I called her to just 'chat' we talked for literally 3 minutes. Now we'll talk for half an hour or longer multiple times a week, and I spend a month with them every summer with our daughter (will do it with both kids now).
It's great. I mean, we grate on each other sometimes, but we love each other and I really mean that.
My MIL is pretty nice, it helps that she's able to straddle the line of being supportive without being over-bearing or nosy.
I feel like I don't know her very well, but we've done some neat things like make hard candy together, take LO to see Santa, etc. We talk a lot about LO and I ask her to tell me stories about what DH was like as a baby.