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Totally stressed out
I am feeling really overwhelmed, and tense. I feel so wound up and I don't know how to relax. Between packing, moving, trying to get the new place fixed up, finding a tenant, signing loan documents, getting our mortgage by our deadline, Christmas shopping (which always stresses me unbelievably), and general baby care, I 'm starting to flip my lid. I got mad at the escrow officer today because basically she's a biotch and now she has not called us with an appt. DH says he is going to take care of everything then I wind up doing stuff that he said he would do, which I knew darn well would happen. "Did you call about the cleaning service? Did you call the painter? What are we having painted?" INitially he said I would not have to pack and now he is like "Well we can pack most of the stuff". He was away for four days and I basically was house bound alone with the baby and I feel like I am just going to lose it. I have been snapping at him and I know there are some hormone fluctuations around this time (three months PP). I was thinking of trying a support group or some antidepressants or trying to get back to my therapist but it seems too hard to keep an appt. I would rather do a drop in group that way if I don't go it's no big deal. Anyone else felt this way? what did you do to help you relax and unwind? Everything seems like a major catastrophe.
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Re: Totally stressed out
**hugs**
I feel that way often this time of year as it's DH's busiest time of the year and he's never home. It can be really hard to do all the house care and baby care day after day after day. Our answer came in the form of a babysitter who comes twice a week for a couple/few hours so that I can have some quiet alone time. I notice that when I am given just a few hours to myself I am much more able to handle everything. Otherwise, patience runs itself dry and I find myself snapping at anyone and everyone who comes within reach.
I remember all too well feeling this way when M was about 6 weeks old until 3 months. Seriously. Overwhelmed is the word! No real advice, just that this will pass, and huge hugs. I had to repeatedly remind myself to take things one day at a time. And I was big on reminding others that was how I was doing it too. I remember saying umpteen times to DH, "Listen, I'm only making plans for the next two hours, you do what you want. I won't bug you with my schedule."
Hugs.
Thanks everyone. Actually my nanny will be starting for half days on Mondays to get used to the baby etc, so that will be helpful. I can't afford much more than that.
And the loan docs got signed, the escrow officer did send a notary to our house, so that worked out, thankfully. Yay for a new house, that will help too, this place is like a dungeon, so small and dark. I need more space and less clutter, I think that will really improve my mood.
*hugs*
This is me about 3 weeks into every tour. Stressed, over extended and bitter bitter bitter.
If you think you need some help or a support group...do it.
I hope that after the holidays and after your move, you'll get settled and will feel better.
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I agree.
And the monday half day relief will help as well. Don't feel bad if you use part of that time to nap. A well-rested mommy is a relaxed and more able to handle the overwhelming tasks on her list mommy.
Lots of hugs!
DH keeps telling me to nap more too, but I feel like I have so much to do. But you are right, I probably need more rest. thanks again everyone
Hugs!
I think you need to give yourself permission to freak out! Just the house buying and moving is INSANE! Add a 3 month old in AND a DH out of town for 4 days and it's amazing you're holding it together IMO.
I think you need to tell DH 'no' Insist on hiring someone to come do the packing or whatever is your priority.
Are there drop in counseling sessions? That sounds like a GREAT idea!
I returned to work f/t when DD was about 4 months old....a month later we were in escrow on our house, moving a month after that, trying to get it in move in condition, etc. I did every.single.thing related to buying that house and dealing with an incompetent mortgage chick.
Hormones are likely a factor, but having been in a similar situation myself...it's just really f-ing stressful taking care of everything. Buying a house and moving is super stressful on its own - throw everything else in there and it's bound to make even the calmest person certifiable.
It gets better. When you get settled, it will get easier. It will take a couple months of being in the house before you'll be able to look at your husband without wanting to rip his head off, but it will calm down.
Big big hugs, A. I'm so sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed. I wish I lived closer and could come relieve you for a 2 hours nap
Thinking of you.
LOL, you guys crack me up.
Well I did get a better night of sleep last night, the cold that DD has had for over three weeks seems to be getting a little better, I listened to my bumpie friends and busted out the vaporizer and maybe that is helping, and we signed last night. I told DH GET ME THE BOXES so I can start packing NOWWWWWWWWWW. He is so mellow that I have to light the fire under his rear sometimes. BUT when I am getting irritated with people I hand the phone to him. We make a good couple that way. Im sure it will all work out, thank goodness I am still on leave,until feb1, K&C, I can't imagine being back at work and dealing with all this.
Follow up on the escrow lady, she did get the notary to our house last night and I thanked her profusely.