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2nd Trimester
stgn01
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Why am I offended now?
stgn01
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Ok, so I know that DH has a porn stash and whatever. It never bothered me before. I few magazines and a DVD or two. That was fine and I never had a problem with it. Even shared in the fun a time or two. Now I am offended that he even has it and I noticed that he got a few more DVD's. I've already talked to DH about this and he assures me he doesn't use it all the time, actually less now than he used to, and he still loves me, blah, blah, blah.
I find myself looking to see if it's still in the same order as when I looked last, just to see if he used any. I am taking everything so personally this pregnancy and I hate it!!! Why am I getting offended now when it didn't bother me before?
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Re: Why am I offended now?
At first I thought you meant he has a mustache like a porn star would have. So I was first thinking you should just have him shave it off.
I would get really offended about this kind of stuff before we were married. Once we got married though it all went away he infact gave it to his brother. I'd just grab everything hide it and see if he notices. If he doesn notice then feel free to trash it or donate it to someone sexually less fortunate.
DH gave all of his away when we got married.
Let's be honest pregnancy is not hot or sexy. We all have bellies, we are constipated, we spent weeks barfing over a toilet and generally we just feel icky ( at least this is how I feel). I personally have never felt less sexy in my life and it doesn't help that our sex life is non existent. After all of this to have our DH's getting off on some hot, sexy chic with an awesome body who he hasn't ever seen puke is a blow to our egos. At least when we were all sex pots we could show DH that having the real thing is so much better than anything those girls could make him think of.
Now we all have to worry if DH's is going to squish the baby when he is on top or if he can see us over our bumps.
Its understandable that you feel that way now. Your body is changing and I think it makes many of us feel like sexy.
But I wouldn't hide his stash or throw it away. Talk to him about it.
HAHAHAHA!!!! This really did make me laugh
OMG I thought the same thing and for some reason I can not stop laughing hysterically. OMG I even scrolled down before I finished reading hoping that there was a PIP. Thanks for the laugh.
My DD doesn't have any porn except what we have purchased together, which is only a few movies. He isn't really into it, unless he has a secret.
LOL! This cracked me up!!!
I can see why it would bother you now even if it didn't before, our bodies are changing & we aren't necessarilly as comfortable in our new skin & therefore feel less sexy/desirable. My DH does not have a porn stash (that I know of) but I would be really upset by it at this point too. Justified or not, I feel like now is a time when I need my DH to make me feel as attractive as possible, not look at some girl in a magazine with a perfect body & no stretch marks. Don't feel bad that it bugs you, you are not alone in that feeling. I would feel the same way. But I wouldn't hide his stash or anything... just talk to him about it.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
This.
Eleanor Noelle - 18/05/12 Claire Elisabeth - 16/-5/10
My husband would beg to differ. He is way turned on by my pregnancy. And since we are on the subject of porn, he even looked up pregnancy porn. Kind of weird, but I can't fault him for thinking I'm hot.
Though porn doesn't bother me at all.