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policewife08policewife08
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Rich seems to think that I am too attached to the baby.  I just don't want to leave him.  I'm okay not leaving the house and just taking care of him all day. 

Rich wants me to get out and take some time away from Anderson so it will be easier for me to go back to work, in about 4 weeks.  (I cry every time I think about it.)

I left for 20 minutes to get some fast food, but I just feel like I will not get this time back and I'm going to spend as much of it with my baby as I can.  I keep telling DH that it is different for me b/c the baby came out of my vag.

 So I was just wondering if any of you went through this?  I don't think it is that out of the ordinary.

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  • dexspsandqsdexspsandqs

    You are a brand new mom, there is no such thing as too attached!!!

    I'm guessing he's worried about you becoming burnt out- then again, you probably are. This is what happens during the first sleepless weeks of acclimating to motherhood.

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  • BlondeBeachBride08BlondeBeachBride08
    I agree that there's no such thing as being too attached. As long as you're still taking care of yourself and mentally you're still feeling balanced I don't see the cause for concern. Why would you be away from him if you don't have to? He's 2 weeks old not 12 or 20yrs!
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  • WendellsWendells
    omg, he's crazy!  he's only two weeks old!  i was on maternity leave for 3 months and i hardly left the house in all that time.  you are doing exactly what you should be doing right now, bonding with your baby and making him feel secure and loved.  & no matter what you do it will be hard to go back to work.
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  • lindeenweddinglindeenwedding member

    I was the same way and Eric said the same things. Finally he and my in-laws made me leave the house without her so we went to breakfast and shopping for a total of 2 hours and I bawled the whole time. I can't remember how old she was at that point, maybe a month? It made me feel much better though when we got home and found out she had slept that entire time.

    I also cried every time I thought of going back to work. But it does get easier. We have a whole bunch of working mommies on this board that will be here for you when you go back. (((hugs)))

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    ~Kimberly & Eric~ April 21, 2008 ~Tensing Pen ~ Negril, Jamaica ~ My Blog: One Sunset at a Time
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  • policewife08policewife08

    Thank you so much!  I didn't think I was crazy but this child is going to vote before I know it and I want to spend as much time as I can with him now and enjoy it.

     I'm going to try and leave to get a mani/pedi next week, we'll see how that goes...

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  • policewife08policewife08
    imagelindeenwedding:

    I was the same way and Eric said the same things. Finally he and my in-laws made me leave the house without her so we went to breakfast and shopping for a total of 2 hours and I bawled the whole time. I can't remember how old she was at that point, maybe a month? It made me feel much better though when we got home and found out she had slept that entire time.

    I also cried every time I thought of going back to work. But it does get easier. We have a whole bunch of working mommies on this board that will be here for you when you go back. (((hugs)))

    I have to go back at 6 weeks and it is just killing me.  I keep hoping someone is just going to give us money so I can stay home longer.  I know it is going to be one of the hardest things ever, but it is good to know I will have lots of support here and that I'm not alone.  Thanks!

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  • Ms.Beachbum08Ms.Beachbum08
    It is totally normally.  I was even to the point that I didn't like when other people held her.  I think that it was because I had to go back to school right away and as you stated, that is your bonding time.
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  • policewife08policewife08

    imageMs.Beachbum08:
    It is totally normally.  I was even to the point that I didn't like when other people held her.  I think that it was because I had to go back to school right away and as you stated, that is your bonding time.

    DH mentioned that we shouldn't hold him too much b/c he wants him to be able to sooth himself to sleep.  But with 20 people a week holding him for hours unend, I'm going to get my time in.

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  • dexspsandqsdexspsandqs
    imagepolicewife08:


    DH mentioned that we shouldn't hold him too much b/c he wants him to be able to sooth himself to sleep.  But with 20 people a week holding him for hours unend, I'm going to get my time in.

    WHAT??? 

    Umm, sorry but NO! Your baby is far too young to self soothe or be on any real feeding schedule!  Right now life revolves around baby- when he cries he needs assurance and comfort that you'll both be there. Just like with feeding, babies hit many growth spurts and may want to bottle feed or nurse more...please DO NOT think there's such a thing as holding your baby too much- there isn't!

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  • WendellsWendells
    imagedexspsandqs:
    imagepolicewife08:


    DH mentioned that we shouldn't hold him too much b/c he wants him to be able to sooth himself to sleep.  But with 20 people a week holding him for hours unend, I'm going to get my time in.

    WHAT??? 

    Umm, sorry but NO! Your baby is far too young to self soothe or be on any real feeding schedule!  Right now life revolves around baby- when he cries he needs assurance and comfort that you'll both be there. Just like with feeding, babies hit many growth spurts and may want to bottle feed or nurse more...please DO NOT think there's such a thing as holding your baby too much- there isn't!

    PLEASE THIS!!!!!  Exactly what Sara said!!  Your baby is WAY too young for this. 

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  • lindeenweddinglindeenwedding member
    imagepolicewife08:
    imagelindeenwedding:

    I was the same way and Eric said the same things. Finally he and my in-laws made me leave the house without her so we went to breakfast and shopping for a total of 2 hours and I bawled the whole time. I can't remember how old she was at that point, maybe a month? It made me feel much better though when we got home and found out she had slept that entire time.

    I also cried every time I thought of going back to work. But it does get easier. We have a whole bunch of working mommies on this board that will be here for you when you go back. (((hugs)))

    I have to go back at 6 weeks and it is just killing me.  I keep hoping someone is just going to give us money so I can stay home longer.  I know it is going to be one of the hardest things ever, but it is good to know I will have lots of support here and that I'm not alone.  Thanks!

    I went back at 7 weeks, so I know how bad that sucks. It tore me up that we didn't need the money, but that was all my work would allow me to be gone so it was take it or quit...

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  • BlondeBeachBride08BlondeBeachBride08
    imageWendells:
    imagedexspsandqs:
    imagepolicewife08:


    DH mentioned that we shouldn't hold him too much b/c he wants him to be able to sooth himself to sleep.  But with 20 people a week holding him for hours unend, I'm going to get my time in.

    WHAT??? 

    Umm, sorry but NO! Your baby is far too young to self soothe or be on any real feeding schedule!  Right now life revolves around baby- when he cries he needs assurance and comfort that you'll both be there. Just like with feeding, babies hit many growth spurts and may want to bottle feed or nurse more...please DO NOT think there's such a thing as holding your baby too much- there isn't!

    PLEASE THIS!!!!!  Exactly what Sara said!!  Your baby is WAY too young for this. 

    sorry but your DH REALLY doesn't know what he's talking about. He has no ability to self sooth at this point and will not for several months. There's no place for 'tough love' with an infant.  

    Siggy Deleted Due to Internet Stalking. Mama to Q, born July 2010
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