What is your biggest fear re. parenting?

Mhild · December 2009

Since it's slow...

What are you most nervous/afraid of when it comes to parenting?

jilicious · December 2009

Reacting instantly to my child's bad behavior. I want to be able to get some patience and think about how to approach difficult issues, not have immediate reactions like my parents, especially my mother, did. All it taught me was that flares of temper are normal and encouraged.

Alicebean · December 2009

The teenage years

BelhurstBride · December 2009

Being short and unreasonable.

laurasue · December 2009

Raising children who have poor manners and are out of control. But on the flip side, being too overbearing and losing my temper the way my mom did. I'd like to strike a balance.

Mhild · December 2009

I'm scared of become passive-aggressive like my mom. At the same time, I'm also afraid of being to short-tempered.

I'm also terrified that DH will turn into his dad. I can't stand my FIL and I pray that DH won't become like him.

scubaspot · December 2009

I am scared I will be like my parents. I love them and they did the best they knew how but they are all very emotionally damaged people who sometimes took their resentment and bitterness out on us kids.

They love me very very much, I have no doubt about it, but sometime they did and said needlessly cruel things. I hope that my children will not only know that they are loves but accepted and liked as well. I wont be my child's best friend but I don't ever want to do anything that will make them feel degraded or less than who they are.

gmugrad9 · December 2009

not treating the kids fairly. with one it was easy but now with the second I just worry if they will feel that one is loved more or so

robinsokj · December 2009

Favoring one of the twins

kate930 · December 2009

I just found out I am having a girl and I am super worried about screwing this little girl up. I am not very good at being a girl, and have no idea how to teach her how to be one!

coshea1 · December 2009

Alicebean:
The teenage years

Ditto....And watching the Oprah episode with schizophrenic 8 year old scared the crap out of me. I don't know how those parents deal with the situation. It made me second guess if I am ready for parenthood.

scubaspot · December 2009

jilicious:
Reacting instantly to my child's bad behavior. I want to be able to get some patience and think about how to approach difficult issues, not have immediate reactions like my parents, especially my mother, did. All it taught me was that flares of temper are normal and encouraged.

I have to wonder if maybe we are related. I too am from Tucson and from everything I have seen you write about your mother I think we might have the same one.

americanada · December 2009

being impatient.

MomOfClaire · December 2009

I really just want to raise my daughter into an independent woman. And I don't want to give her the emotional baggage that my parents managed to pile onto my siblings and me.

kate930 · December 2009

americanada:
being impatient.

Me too. I already am, and I'm sure I will be so with my kids. I have been practicing with my husband about not being snappy. It's very hard.

gypsywitch · December 2009

laurasue:
Raising children who have poor manners and are out of control. But on the flip side, being too overbearing and losing my temper the way my mom did. I'd like to strike a balance.

This. DD#1 is 2 1/2 and I'm trying REALLY HARD to instill manners and patience into her. FYI..2yr olds can SAY the word patience..they don't know how to exercise it LOL.

prego760 · December 2009

How the heck and I going to afford child care.

lildevil968 · December 2009

Not being able to provide for my family is my number 1 fear.

jilicious · December 2009

scubaspot:

jilicious:
Reacting instantly to my child's bad behavior. I want to be able to get some patience and think about how to approach difficult issues, not have immediate reactions like my parents, especially my mother, did. All it taught me was that flares of temper are normal and encouraged.

I have to wonder if maybe we are related. I too am from Tucson and from everything I have seen you write about your mother I think we might have the same one.

LOL Oops, sounds like I've gone off about poor mommy too much. Ah, well, she's a handful, I'll tell you. At least I know there's someone here in the same boat!!

StrawberryAlarmClock · December 2009

What to do if they get into drugs! Huh?

I used to watch Intervention and those families had a heck of a time helping their kids. DH and I both have alcoholism in our families (although I don't drink, but he does).

mjcleve · December 2009

Alicebean:
The teenage years

MomOfClaire · December 2009

StrawberryAlarmClock:
What to do if they get into drugs! I used to watch Intervention and those families had a heck of a time helping their kids. DH and I both have alcoholism in our families (although I don't drink, but he does).

This honestly horrifies me. My younger brother passed away 4 months ago from a drug overdose, and addiction runs rampant in my family. DH and I are both pretty straight-laced, but we are still very worried about addiction. My brother did not die from lack of effort on my mother's part, so you just wonder what you can do when your kids start experimenting.

chuleta111 · December 2009

I have been parenting for 16 years and I think that the hardest part for me has been all of the school years. For example: Homework help, trying to find childcare for no school and half days, the other kids at school & money for misc. stuff all the time. I have heard people say that the teen years are the hardest, but in my experience it is the pre-teen years (10-13) that are the most challenging.

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