If you are PG w/ multiples and have a child already

CrazeyJaneyR · December 2009

How on earth are you limiting what you do? Every time I lift my daughter in any way I contract. It's freaking me out. But I'm a SAHM, I don't really have a choice in the matter. What are you doing to take it easy??

mnj917 · December 2009

It was tough for me too - I usually tried to sit either on the floor or on the couch and had DD come to me. We did a lot of hand holding too, even if it was just walking around the house.

Hibiscus2007 · December 2009

I am worried about this too, on days I pick up DS too much I pay for it later, I can only imagine how it will be as I get further along. I have been trying to get him to walk and hold my hand more and more. GL

Temp159135562506975 · December 2009

we kept Griffin in daycare full time when i stopped work- so i could get the rest needed... and when he was home - DH was home with me most of the time and would do any lifting. The only time I lifted him was to change him before bed, and put him into his crib. Other than that i really avoided it- but he was a little older than your DD I believe (he was 2y2mo when the twins were born) so it wasn't so hard b/c he rarely wants to be picked up these days.

my OB never restricted me with lifting- but told me to do it as little as I could - only when really needed.

DESXF · December 2009

Just trying to rest as much as I can when DH gets home. It hasn't been too bad up until now, but these past few days I have been super crampy, exhausted and queasy.

I feel bad, but I have kind of been letting DS watch TV and just kind of play independently while I lay on the couch here and there. I'm hoping it will pass soon.

DS isn't in any kind of day care, and I don't really have anyone else here that can help other than my mom (but she has mental and physical issues and is not dependable)

Sorry, I don't have any advice, I'm in the same boat. Good luck!

meshell782 · December 2009

it is hard. right now she is in daycare twice a week and i plan to keep that up until after the babies are here. to at least give me a break twice a week. but other than that it is just me. my husband travels three weeks a month. when he is home he does everything. i try to hold hands, use a stroller, and sit on the couch or floor. the hardest is bath time and when she is cranky cause she want to be held, but i will sit on the floor and do that as much as i can.

sunnybrook. · December 2009

We had to put my foster son in day care 3x/week so that I could get some rest and go to all my doctors' appts. As soon as I found out I was pg, I started coming up with alternatives to picking up my foster son. I taught him how to climb in and out of his kitchen booster seat, car seat, bath tub, etc. We transitioned him to a twin bed. Instead of picking him up to comfort or play, I sit on the couch or floor to cuddle him. Ditto pp that he watches more tv than I'd like while I lay on the couch. Its definitely not easy and my FS is older than your daughter. Hang in there and ask for help if there is any available.

jacobandcrystal · December 2009

Not much : ) I have a 3-year-old and 1-year-old. The 3-year old is pretty easy in terms of my physical activity... except that he's always asking for a drink, snack, movie, help in the bathroom, etc. or making messes for me to clean up! The 1-year-old is pretty difficult for me physically right now because he always wants me to pick him up or to climb on me. I did start having him crawl up the stairs for naps (with me right behind) because carrying him up was really hard. I do still need to carry him down though. Changing his diaper is also hard right now because my belly is awkwardly in my way no matter how I try!

FWIW, I spent the last 6 weeks or so feeling like I just couldn't do it anymore and just was at the end of my rope physically, emotionally, everything. I felt guilty for not being able to do the things I wanted to do with the boys. I was also constantly worried that all my activity would bring on PTL.

Just the past week though, I think I'm close enough to the end that there's a light at the end of the tunnel! I'm much more positive now and am looking forward to the girls being here and the belly being gone so that I can at least do more to provide for myself and the boys during the day.

mlgd · December 2009

I try not to lift or pick him up unless I really have to, but I think my DS may be a little older than your DD. It's definitely hard! Ditto what pp have said about taking it easy when DH is home and during naptime. We do watch more TV then I'd really like to, but I try not to feel too guilty about it. I also have really cut back on the housework (my doc specifically told me to -- no vacuuming or other more strenuous activities -- and I'm NOT complaining about that at all!), so my main source of "work" really is DS during the day.

Rinnie · December 2009

My DD was walking by the time we found out it was twins. She still needed help, but for the most part around the house she got to where she needed to go. By 20 weeks they wanted me to stop carrying her and holding her.

Most of the time I followed that advice, but if I was going out - I had to lift her up and into the truck.

I played a lot with her on the floor or cuddled with her on the floor - which got harder the further I got a long, but like everyone else I made her come to me for the most part.

Also I would take naps with her when she would nap in the afternoon. She would nap about 2-3 hours - which was a much need rest for me.

Thankfully she was really good at going up & down our stairs - so I didn't carry her - but would spot her - still do.

DH would bring the laundry up and down the stairs for me and I would just wash & fold it.

On weekends if we went out to the store or anywhere - he knew he was in charge of getting her in & out of car seat etc...

Also I would still do the shopping - but he would bring the bags in and 99% put the stuff away.

I am so glad that part of my life is over. It is really hard to limit yourself when you already have children at home.

GL!

*edited to add - that I never had any contractions through my whole pregnancy.

ErinCB · December 2009

I'm doing along the same lines Rinnie posted.

DS walks and I refuse to carry him anywhere unless absolutely necessary. He can go up and down the stairs by himself, I just stay right with him and hold his hand if necessary.

When I go grocery shopping, I only carry in what needs to go in the fridge right away and make DH do the rest.

I do diaper changes on the floor.

When DH is home, he knows he is "on duty" more than I am.

Luckily, DS is pretty good w/ independent play, so I can stay seated. And when he needs entertainment, I sit on the floor and have him bring toys/books/whatever to me. DH takes him for more active play outside when he gets home and on the weekends.

When DS naps, I take it easy. No housework, no extras, just putting my feet up and relaxing. That's a good 2 or 3 hours a day. My house isn't as spotless as it used to be, but it's clean enough and the base boards can wait .

GL!! It's tough, but doable.

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