A post on 0-3 got me thinking...

CheekyMommy · December 2009

If your kid doesn't want to wear "season appropriate" clothing, will you let them wear whatever they want to even if they throw a fit?

Here's my thing... it's cold outside... you're going to wear a coat and/or scarf whether you like it or not. This is not a negotiation opportunity. Scream, yell, pitch a fit all you want, but NO. If you want to leave the house, you will be wearing clothing that will not get you sick.

Some parents just piss me off.

Breezer80 · December 2009

And that is why I will put away summer clothes when the season ends. If she can't see them, she can't wear them!

Lovin Wife · December 2009

Who is in charge? MEEEEE Big Smile

CheekyMommy · December 2009

Breezer80:
And that is why I will put away summer clothes when the season ends. If she can't see them, she can't wear them!

You, my friend, are a brilliant woman. Some parents don't think to do this!

wingsfan524 · December 2009

Until my child is older, they will wear season appropriate clothes. I remember being in high school and not wearing a coat all the time. At that age, I don't really care.

Chrysallys · December 2009

Lovin Wife:
Who is in charge? MEEEEE

Yes

RandZB · December 2009

My children will wear season-appropriate clothing. Now, if they want to wear a t-shirt over long johns or shorts over sweatpants or something like that, okay. I'm alright with them looking ridiculous from time to time. But no, they will not go outside in the winter in shorts and flip flops.

TommysGirl56 · December 2009

Agreed. Health comes first. No exceptions.

CalinsBride · December 2009

Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.

leslielou22 · December 2009

Breezer80:
And that is why I will put away summer clothes when the season ends. If she can't see them, she can't wear them!

I have to do this with SD....and I REALLY hide them! I don't just put them in a bin under her bed because she finds them. I bury them in the back of the closet in ziploc bags. It's crazy but she's a sneaky little thing.

SoonToBeTabor · December 2009

CalinsBride:
Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.

This is what I did/do. I give my DD choices. You can pout your coat on and be warm or you can choose not to wear a coat and be cold. About 1.8 seconds in the cold without a coat usually does it. She does even try anymore.

Granted, if its 30*, she has no choice but if the weather is negotiable then I let her choose but come prepared just incase.

Jenny3 · December 2009

Agreed

mavilabride · December 2009

CalinsBride:
Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.

Yup mom did the same with my brothers. Sometimes letting them decide on their own is more effective than making the decision for them. If its really cold out it won't take them too long to realize they need extra clothing.

sam19 · December 2009

I will put away all summer clothes and she will wear a coat and hat whether she likes it or not.

ljlkm · December 2009

CalinsBride:
Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.

Children around the age of 3 don't quite have the ability to think a step or two ahead. You can tell them they will be cold, but they really don't understand the consequences of going out without a coat. You really do have to let them experience it and then they'll go back and get their coat.

ETA: https://www.livescience.com/culture/090324-toddlers-listen.html

deeanneharris · December 2009

mavilabride:
CalinsBride:
Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.
Yup mom did the same with my brothers. Sometimes letting them decide on their own is more effective than making the decision for them. If its really cold out it won't take them too long to realize they need extra clothing.

This is what I think. If they are old enough to throw a fit about it, they are old enough to realize they are cold. DD tried to wear open toe shoes to school the other day. I said, "It is going to be really cold" and she just looked at me. I let it go, we walked outside to leave, and she decided she wanted to go in and change.

mrsdc701 · December 2009

Until there is snow on the ground, I go out in flip flops. It's not the cold that makes you sick.

When it comes to DD, she needs to learn from experience, not from having a screaming match with me.

hula_lula · December 2009

I have this issue with my 3 year old. If she wants to wear a dress, super. She can. But she has to wear long sleeves and pants or tights with it. Or a jacket over it.

And she has to wear a coat, etc etc. End of story, no negotiations. I don't fight on what she's wearing at all, as long as she'll be warm enough

Panda53321 · December 2009

ljlkm:

CalinsBride:
Hmm. . .I had to do that with a kid once. She never wanted to wear her coat or mits or hat and each morning she had a gigantic fit, it was ridiculous. So one day (with her parents permission) I let her go out in a long sleeved shirt and a skirt, and I brought all the other stuff in the diaper bag (pants, mits, hat, scarf, sweater, coat, etc). Within 2 minutes she told me she was cold. I put all the other stuff on her ASAP. After that when she said she didn't want to wear her winter clothes, I would just say "Well, if you don't, you'll be cold. Are you okay with that?" The answer was invariably "No", and there was no more tantrum throwing and no more going out without her winter clothes.

Children around the age of 3 don't quite have the ability to think a step or two ahead. You can tell them they will be cold, but they really don't understand the consequences of going out without a coat. You really do have to let them experience it and then they'll go back and get their coat.

ETA: https://www.livescience.com/culture/090324-toddlers-listen.html

This!!!! I have a 3 year old and this is what works best for him. Of course DH and I are in charge and he knows that but we allow him to make decisions like this for himself because he needs to work on his thinking, problem solving and processing skills. It is also better for him to figure things out on his own rather than us constantly telling him "no".

MrsWanee · December 2009

Breezer80:
And that is why I will put away summer clothes when the season ends. If she can't see them, she can't wear them!

great idea! growing up, my sister and i shared a [pretty big] room, and we had one summer clothes dresser and one winter clothes dresser. for some reason, we never wanted to "rebel" and wear clothes in the wrong season. it might be harder with boys though!

Shlei · December 2009

I may compromise and say she can wear summer clothes as long as she wears winter clothes too but I will not let my daughter dress in her summer clothes alone. That is not ok.

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