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CNN - Choosing your child's gender...
Really interesting article on CNN's homepage! Just curious, what do you ladies think? It appears to be popular for other countries (especially China and India where they usually want boys).
I dont think that I would want to choose... although I'd always wanted to have a little girl, I think it would kind of be like playing God.
What do you guys think? 
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Re: CNN - Choosing your child's gender...
I don't like them. I am not comfortable with them, and I would not want to take the chance of getting pregnant and having a boy. And with my luck, that is exactly what I would have.
This was a huge discussion on the politics board a few weeks ago, based around gender dissapointment (not gender selection). The article cited was extreme versions of mom's going through gender dissapointment, and I can only imagine how they would feel. I think I would be similar. Not nearly as extreme, but I know I would be horribly dissapointed if I had a boy, and that is certainly no way to welcome a child into the world. And for that reason, among others, I don't think it would be right for me to ever procreate.
So, while I do think it's a bit creepy I understand the appeal, and if it were an option for us I would consider doing it.
Interesting question. I don't think I would do it. The only reason I would consider it is b/c my family has a history of autism, which is more prevalent in boys. But...If I made plans to have a girl, would she NOT be autistic, or, if she did, would it worse for her b/c autism is more understoon in males?
I can't see choosing one just becaues "I want one of each" or "I want a girl" or "I want a boy."
I can kinda understand the gender disappointment. I went to Boston in Oct to help my aunt who gave birth (had CS) to her third child. My aunt is such a girly girl and would love a daughter. She had her third boy. She never said she was disappointed and is totally in love with the baby but I couldn't help but feel disappointed for her.
When I called my mom and the other sisters they all responded with disappointment in their voice. In fact my mom said 'o really isn't that a pity'.
My aunt intended to have 2 children and had two boys BUT a few years later decided to try again (meaning she really wanted a girl). At that point I could see using gender selection. I have to point out here that her and her DH are great parents and adore their three boys.
I CAN tell you that there are now major problems with countries like China. There is such a draught in young women, that little girls are being kidnapped and sold into marriages (yes, that is plural).
The girls will be stolen from the cities and inner mongolia and sold to farmers in outer mongolia. And after they have their allotted one child, may then be kidnapped again and sold to another farmer thousands of miles away to have another child.
The chinese government NEVER thought that their One Child Policy would result in a situation like this.
Which begs the question, what horrific end result could happen here?
DH really, really, really wanted this baby to be a girl. Had she not been, he wanted to try and have one more child. For awhile we talked about what we would do, and I really felt that if it was SO important to him, then we shouldn't leave it up to chance. But that led to a discussion about adoption, not gender selection.
I could see selection based on other dna/genes, like lacking an autism gene or lacking one of the BRCA cancer genes, but I think I personally would feel odd about going through the process just to get a specific gender.
JPowell... did I miss something????? Are you expecting??
There are also women running scams, getting men to give them their entire life savings as a bride price then running off once the man hands over the cash. Oftentimes, it's not just the groom's money she runs off with either but his entire family's, sometimes the entire villages.
I don't think it will be as big of an issue here. Some of us want girls, some of us what boys. My issue with it is I don't think it should be offered to couples who would choose to abort if they didn't get their wished for gender. The very thought of that makes me ill.
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Just a question out of curiousity for posters who said that it "feels like playing God" or "just isn't natural" (or something to that effect), are you also against IVF for these reasons?
You can also do what a friend advised me to do. He told me "girls are created when the parents use the missionary position. Boys are created when the woman is on top."
Not sure what this says about the families where "they are only girls going back for centuries...." - maybe the family members need to expand their horizons, so to speak.
No, Im not against IVF if it is needed... and a woman cannot get pregnant. If the time comes when I get pregnant, if my oncologist tells me that my chromosomal defect will be passed along to only girls - then I would want gender selection...
I think its fine for certain circumstances!
There were 2 or 3 posters with similar statements.
Just a question out of curiousity for posters who said that it "feels like playing God" or "just isn't natural" (or something to that effect), are you also against IVF for these reasons.
I had to do IVF and got my twins and I believe gender selection is playing God. (This pregnancy is a suprise pregnancy because we didn't do IVF and we were okay with it being a boy or a girl).
I said that it would be playing God... So I was one of the ones that I guess you were questioning.
For me, I would excited with either a boy or girl... I would just feel truly blessed to even be pregnant. So I'd be fine with either.
I consider IVF a treatment for a medical condition. To me, there is no difference between IVF and skin grafts, transplants, or other medical treatments.
Gender selection is not a treatment.
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No reason to get all snarky - I enjoy hearing all different points of view. You were "questioning" me and others when you asked about IVF. But I am fine with questions... I wouldnt have posted this discussion if I didnt welcome them.
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Yes, yes I am!! Kind of funny timing too because we got into an argument this month because I told him we need to start seeing a specialist & he wanted to wait longer.