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Postpartum Depression
Tess12
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Opinions on anxiety-related situation? (long)
Tess12
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After my daughter was born, I had serious anxiety for a year before I was diagnosed with PPD (the main symptom was anxiety, but I had other depression symptoms which is why the diagnosis was PPD and not PPA). Long after the newborn stage, I had insomnia and had to check on her multiple times a night. I was terrified that something would happen to her while I slept.
So baby number 2 is on the way and the anxiety is under control for now. But something is bothering me. I was supposed to buy a crib from a friend. They are moving in two weeks and were going to put the crib on craigslist, but I said I wanted it, so they didn't. Well, it's a drop-side, but not one of the recalled cribs. After reading the recall info, I don't want the crib. I'm afraid that I will worry too much about it breaking and will be up every hour checking on him. I know this is sort of nuts and not rational, but I'm trying to make things easier this time around and having a crib that makes me nervous is not going to help.
Well, I told my friend I didn't want the crib and she seems okay with it, but she doesn't understand (I think she's on the far other end of the worry scale. Things just don't faze her too much). But now there isn't enough time for her to list it and get some money for it. She's just going to give it to the thrift shop. I feel really guilty. I also feel like she thinks I'm a total nut now. But I honestly don't want the crib anymore. I know I'm having such a strong reaction because of how much I worried at night through M's first year and I don't want to live through that again. But it's totally impossible to make someone understand that if they've never been through it.
So, now I'm wondering what to do. My husband says do nothing, we changed our minds and that's it. My sister suggested buying the crib and selling it on craigslist ourselves (but that seems like a pain). I'm sort of leaning towards just giving my friend the money and telling her to take the crib to the thrift store. Anyway, it's bothering me that I'm so agitated over this. If just one person could tell me they sort of understand, I would feel better.
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Re: Opinions on anxiety-related situation? (long)
I would do exactly the same thing you did. I had terrible anxiety as well. I think you are very smart to be thinking ahead to the "just in case it comes back." Anything you can do now to relieve anxiety later will be beneficial to you. Additionally, any person would think twice about buying the drop side crib.
I wouldn't feel bad about changing your mind unless they were in a serious financial bind and counting on that money. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it. They could always try a consignment shop - do they sell cribs?
It's perfectly understandable to not want that crib anymore. I know not all drop side cribs were recalled but we have a drop side too and I would consider getting a new one when we have a newborn (it doesn't really bother me now with DD since she is older). She'd probably have trouble selling it on craigslist anyhow. Don't feel bad.
Have you gotten help for your anxiety? I would consider seeing a counselor who specializes in PPD and PPA - someone you can get to know and then call on after the baby is born if the anxiety gets bad again.
I'm seeing a therapist right now to help come up with a plan for when I get pregnant again. It's helping sooo much. Wish I had gone sooner.