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my SIL is unbelievable (vent)
Some may remember my post about my SIL expecting a few of us to bring a dish to pass to her son's bday party. I don't mind helping out, but I'm a little irritated it's expected rather than me offering. We then received a page long email about what gifts are ok (he's turning 3), leaving us w/ another expectation. Now I just got a reminder email about what I'm suppose to bring to the party & that there needs to be enough for her 33 guests. Of course we have to put a smile on our face because she's family. My BIL & SIL do not have a lot of extra money, yet they pay $600/yr for a yacht club membership that is obviously not a necessity, as well as constantly buying the latest electronics, like iPhones. And to top it off their son is possibly autistic & needs speech therapy, but they don't have the money to get him help. Luckily the state is providing speech therapy for him. It just makes me so mad that their priorities are so screwed up. And then she talks about having another baby!!!
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Re: my SIL is unbelievable (vent)
I hate people like that...they're "gadget poor" basically, they waste their money on stuff, and then don't have the dough for their OWN CHILD'S speech therapy, let alone his birthday party.
It sucks that it's family too, not like you can say anything really..ugh. Sorry you're dealing w/ that!
And yeah...she does NOT need another kid.
They also don't make a lot of money to begin with, so they really shouldn't spend it on gadgets. She runs a daycare out of their home & I can remember her complaining about when school runs later in the year because she can't collect the state funding for food. If the daycare kids aren't there to feed, what difference does it make?? Obviously she likes the feebies for them, much like the freebies we're providing for their party.
I could go on for days about all the crap she's pulled, from trying to invite herself to my friend's bachelorette party to returning gifts she asked for to get the money instead.
your sister in law is a gem
Under the Americans with Disabilities act, everyone is entitled to goverment funded therapies, yes some people are reckless with their money but they still have that right. As you know, even people who do have money would not pay for it out of their own pocket. so the fact that the government does is a good thing, it ensures that everyone gets the services they need...
I know you guys can't tell her in what many and varied ways she is wrong (since they're family), but someone needs to. A $600/yr. yacht club and iPhones while their possibly autistic son gets government-funded speech therapy and his birthday party catered by the other guests?? Wow. The last thing they need to do is have another child.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with all this. Best of luck to you.
Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful it's there for their son's sake & that he gets help regardless of what they've done w/ their money. I guess I'm just trying to make a point that they're so wrapped up in attaining things that they have put their child's well being on the back burner.
oh sorry, gotcha
You're right, (as I know from personal experience- my 24 year old brother has autism and down's syndrome) and perhaps I worded it wrong... I meant that it is frustrating that people (like her SIL) would be financially irresponsible while taking money (ie treatments/therapy). My parents gladly received money to help my little brother all throughout his schooling, and even now (as he still lives with them-he is unable to live on his own) ... but they were/are also not irresponsible in the least with their money. I understand you can't police that.... and I understand that it's not fair to the child even if you did.. .because the child can't control what mom and dad do. I was just saying that it's frustrating.
I am very thankful that someone is helping SIL's child. No matter what his parents do, I think it's great that he's getting help.
Speech therapy in our state is offered on a strict sliding scale. While we could afford to pay for private therapy through insurance, DD qualifies for us to pay $30/m through the state.
The party thing is rude, especially since a party that latge for a 3yo is not necessary. But unless you've dealt with having your child evaluated by the state, please don't comment on what others receive.
Ha, I think we may share some family in common.
My dh's aunt hosted Easter a couple years ago. When my MIL asked her what she could bring, the response was "a ham would be great". I"m not kidding. She'd ask you to bring the Thanksgiving turkey without batting an eye.
People are nuts.
Again, it has nothing to do with them receiving state assistance. I think what the state provides is great & people should take advantage of the great progams that are offered. In my frustration about their mixed up priorities, I was ranting & don't think the therapy really had any bearing on my point. I just know that these 2 need to focus on their child's needs & less on their desire to keep up w/ the Jones's.