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TTC After a Loss
I got cornered by a IRL ttcer
so last night was our n'hood holiday block party (I live on small one block street where most people know each other - but a few new younger couples have moved in this year that we haven't met) - it was a fun party - too much wine not enough food though . . .
at anyrate, this new neighbor made a beeline to me - literally - had never met her and she shakes my hand saying, "I'm so and so and couldn't wait to find you to pick your brain." I'm thinking - this is nice, someone around my age new in neighborhood (maybe I'll have a friend! my social life here is a bit limited . . .that's a different post), and she's new and wants to know where to go out to eat, etc. . .instead she says "Your husband mentioned you were trying to conceive also (now my DH would never say those words like that - there was a 5 month old baby there and that's how I think it came up that we'd like to have one) - and I am dying to have a friend here to talk to about this because I'm charting and need to figure out when I ovulate and no one understands blah blah blah blah blah"
I was like, whoa! on one hand this is refreshing to have someone to possibly talk about this stuff with IRL, it was also totally overwhelming to be bowled over by TTC lingo in public, loudly. with neighbors listening that don't even know about our losses. . .
boundaries. step back. let's start with, hi, my name is . . .
but a good thing none the less. Hopefully I wasn't so drunk I scared her away.
m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks).
and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers).
IUI#1 and #2: BFNs
Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie.
Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
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Re: I got cornered by a IRL ttcer
Wow... don't know what I'd do if I was cornered by a real life TTC'er.... I like the message boards, but it seems like no one that I know understands the stuff we talk about here, nor do they want to know. So, anyway...hope you find a cool person to hang out with IRL.
Have a great day, Mindy!! (I'm hiding in the office again, supposed to be doing some online training...better get to it!)
After the initial shock wears off, I hope she can become a good friend. I have no idea what I would do if someone came up and said stuff like that to me out of the blue, though. Boundaries, indeed.
Her approach was really lacking, but it makes me feel really bad for her because it seems like she has been on her own with what she is going through without even any online support. Hopefully you guys hit it off when everyone is sober!
Mom to Teagan 4.11.07 and Cora 9.30.11
D&E @ 22w 9.30.09 CMV infection BFP 10.15.10 C/P 4w4d
she wasn't when we first started talking, but I think quickly we both were. you may or may not realize I'm a pretty private person - I don't talk about this stuff except with my DH, sister a bit and all of you. and I talk to all of you more than anyone. so it was just funny to find someone like all of you (not nearly as fun though - I mean come on) in person who was essentially just dying to talk about this stuff.
Tex - seriously, as soon as I posted this I was like, sh*t, what if she is on here? (and if she is - that's fine - I really did like her - and am glad at a prospect of a friend) . . .I should stop I'm putting my foot in my mouth.
(and Tex - I'm so glad you're moving to buffalo!)
BFP #2 - 12/9/09 After being on bedrest for 10 weeks due to TTTS and hospital bedrest for 4 weeks due to PPROM, my sticky babies are here! Born at 32 weeks!!
I'm the same way. Somehow it's easier on here to talk about it. Probably because we've all been there. I talk to you ladies the most about it, DH, and my SIL when she asks.
hee hee. maybe she was just nervous. also who knows what she's been through ttc wise. she was probably just so excited to find someone that was in her situation. you should totally throw all of our abbreviations at her and if she can keep up, she's totally a fellow bumpie.
I don't think she meant any harm. Probably is just one of those open-book gals and didn't think about it making u uncomfortable.
It would be nice to have someone to talk to about things IRL. I hope it works out good for you.
I wouldn't tell her. As nice as it is to know someone IRL who knows sort of what you're going through, or what you're talking about, in no way do I want to give up my special place, where I can vent and say just about anything.
I think I agree. Besides, if the girl continues to be weirdly overshare-in-public-y, we'd miss out on the stories if she were here.