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My birthday has been put on the backburner this year.

Vuja_deVuja_de
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My birthday is tomorrow but it seems like it is just any other day, normally I get all excited and so does my husband, but this year I mentioned what I would like for dinner tomorrow night and he rolled his eyes like it was a complete pain in the a$$ for him. So I just said I would make dinner and that I didn't want to trouble him.

My feelings are kind of hurt though. I was kind of hoping he would make this year special for me because of the baby coming and everything, oh well.

Little E born 12.10.09 Little A born 04.19.12
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  • mrs_sherodmrs_sherod member
    Hopefully he's planning a surprise for you.  I think acting annoyed by you is pretty digusting.  You do deserve some type of recognition for YOUR day.  My b-day is in about a month...money will be tight, I expect some sort of recognition from DH.
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  • justine09justine09
    Happy Birthday!!!!! Cake
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  • diana.filipidiana.filipi member
    Geez, I'm sorry Vuja_de.  Happy Birthday in advance.  I would still want my birthday dinner.  I think you should plan on doing it and just tell him this afternoon where you guys are going.  Don't let your feelings being hurt make it worse by getting you to stay home and make dinner (self punishment).
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  • ibisibis member
    imageVuja_de:

    My birthday is tomorrow but it seems like it is just any other day, normally I get all excited and so does my husband, but this year I mentioned what I would like for dinner tomorrow night and he rolled his eyes like it was a complete pain in the a$$ for him. So I just said I would make dinner and that I didn't want to trouble him.

    My feelings are kind of hurt though. I was kind of hoping he would make this year special for me because of the baby coming and everything, oh well.

    Goodness gracious, why were you so passive about it? If your feelings are hurt, tell him! Don't make dinner on your birthday if you don't want to. The least he could do would be to cook for you or pick up dinner. 

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  • Temp785382312506150Temp785382312506150 member

    Hopefully, he's planning on surprising you with someone and was just trying to throw you off.

    Happy Birthday in advance! My birthday is in 2 weeks and the only thing I want this year is the baby!

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  • Kiki-licioius Kiki-licioius member
    Maybe it's just a trick to throw you off. Hugs I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. I hope you get the best birthday surprise ever tomorrow.
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  • BoSoxbrideBoSoxbride member
    I hope you have a great bday regardless. Like pp said, speak up rather than letting something build up and then blow up. By the way, you must not have reached the big 3-0 yet, because after 30 I never once got excited about a bday! lol
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  • BoizmomBoizmom member

    How sad.  Sad

    My Birthday disappeared the year that I had our first son, 5 years ago!  And he was born the day before my Birthday too.  Everything becomes about the kids once you have them...With my DH's birthday on the 11th, our wedding anniversary on the 18th, DS#1 birthday is the 23rd, my birthday is the 24th then Christmas the next day it's no wonder why we don't celebrate mine or my DH's birthday anymore.

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  • susanlovestexassusanlovestexas member

    I agree with PPs.  Don't cook dinner on your birthday!  Do you have friends nearby that you can make plans to go to dinner with?  If my DH was being a birthday scrooge, I'd just bypass him and go have fun with my girls!

    That being said, I'm turning 30 just 3 or 4 days after LO will be born.  I am pretty sure I will be invisible on this birthday, lol.  And to make it worse, I probably won't even be up to going out to dinner yet!  I'm disappointed already.  30 is supposed to be a big one.

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  • SmootchySmootchy member

    awe, I'm sorry... Maybe he'll surprise you!  At least with dinner!

    happy early bday!

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  • Vuja_deVuja_de

    you are right, I shouldn't have been passive aggressive, so I will talk to him tonight about it. I don't even care about gifts, I just wanted a nice dinner with just the two of us before the little one arrives.

    Little E born 12.10.09 Little A born 04.19.12
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  • Natesmom05Natesmom05
    I know the feeling. This year I will either have just had the baby a few days before my bday or will have her ON my bday. So I know my bday will be nothing special this year. Even more so b/c there's Christmas, then a week later our anniversary & then a week later, my birthday. I know I won't be getting anything great for any of those occasions. I hope for your sake he's surprising you though! I know my dh would never do anything like that though :( 
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  • Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member
    I am sorry.  That sucks.  My 35th bday was on Nov. 24th and it was bad.  I got dx with GD that day...so no bday celebration for me.  I was basically crying all day.  DH did make a dinner that fit my new GD diet but I was in no mood to be festive.
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