What "I" learned from "my" EDD....

roxyttandme · December 2009

I learned that the time leading up to EDD was worse (for me) than the actual EDD. I think I emotionally made it out to be more than what it was. It also feels like now I have premission to move forward. All the time that Haleigh was supposed to be within me has taken place. I dedicated myself to her for the whole 9 months... now it is time to move on. So, I guess I got some closure out of the day.

I woud imagine that if I hadn't been so far along in the pg when we lost Haleigh- that perhaps my reaction to my EDD may have been different. Perhaps I wouldn't feel that I need to dedicate my body 9 months to her. Then again, it could just be how "I" feel. Although I don't talk about it alot -Haleigh is actualy my third loss.

Things I would recommend during EDD:

1.) Have close family/friends around that you supportive and you feel comfortable just being yourself.

2.) Plan an activity for the day. Go on a day trip, ammusment parks, the movies- just make sure something is on the schedule. Something to look forward to.

3.) Sleep aid for me are key. Make sure you get a good night's sleep.

4.) Keep your schedule as flexible as possible. I broke down for a good hour yesterday... so, just know that it can be a the same rollercoaster that we are all used to.

Love you ladies... and thanks for all the amazing support!!!

~Elizabeth

triple_sevens · December 2009

I'm glad that this feels like a moment of closure to you. There's a possibility for peace when you have that. I hope you have joyfulness in your heart again, soon.

My EDD is months away, but I will think of your advice when I get there. Thanks.

andrea z · December 2009

Aww big hugs. I am glad that you feel a little closure in this. It sounds like you handled Haleigh's EDD with class and strength. I am sure she is so proud of you right now.

Thanks for the tips. We are facing ours soon, and I am dreading it.

erpetdoc · December 2009

((((hugs)))), Elizabeth!! You are an amazing woman. Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I'm glad that it gave you hope to move forward. I know that Haleigh would be proud of her mama. Take care of yourself and we'll be here to support you as you start your TTC journey again.

CAB'smommy · December 2009

andrea z:
Aww big hugs. I am glad that you feel a little closure in this. It sounds like you handled Haleigh's EDD with class and strength. I am sure she is so proud of you right now.

I agree. Glad you made it through so well. I'll try to remember this when my EDD comes. It is actually on the anniversary of my grandmother's death (I sat by her side for 3 days while she died), so it's going to be a hard day in general. But maybe I'll be able to take things I've learned from people like you and turn it into a positive day.

mamaholic · December 2009

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

roxyttandme · December 2009

Mrs.Nunley:

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

Thanks, hun. When you get the next set of beta drawn???

TravelinMama · December 2009

I'm so glad you got some closure and it wasn't as bad as you were expecting.

mamaholic · December 2009

roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

Thanks, hun. When you get the next set of beta drawn???

Tomorrow. I am scared out of my mind. I am trying to relax and not stress out, but it's not very easy.

roxyttandme · December 2009

Mrs.Nunley:
roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

Thanks, hun. When you get the next set of beta drawn???

Tomorrow. I am scared out of my mind. I am trying to relax and not stress out, but it's not very easy.

Hang in there, girl... I will be thinking of you.... (((hugs)))

mamaholic · December 2009

roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:
roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

Thanks, hun. When you get the next set of beta drawn???

Tomorrow. I am scared out of my mind. I am trying to relax and not stress out, but it's not very easy.

Hang in there, girl... I will be thinking of you.... (((hugs)))

Thank you. I wish I could reach through here and hugs you IRL. Big Smile

schen0510 · December 2009

I am glad that you have found some closure and that things were not as bad as you anticipated. I agree that the days leading up are going to be worse than the actual day. I have 2 of them to get through...my scheduled c-section and the actual EDD. I think the c-section is going to be worse than the EDD since we expected them to come super early.

Thank you for the tips as well...we are approaching our day the week in between Christmas and New Years, I don't have work that week, and I am going to need to have something to distract me.

((huge hugs))

roxyttandme · December 2009

Mrs.Nunley:
roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:
roxyttandme:
Mrs.Nunley:

I'm glad to hear you made it through. You are so strong. I'm sure Haleigh is proud of you and is glad you've gotten a little closure.

((((hugs))))

Thanks, hun. When you get the next set of beta drawn???

Tomorrow. I am scared out of my mind. I am trying to relax and not stress out, but it's not very easy.

Hang in there, girl... I will be thinking of you.... (((hugs)))

Thank you. I wish I could reach through here and hugs you IRL.