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Was it totally wrong..
To not even really pay attention to the 2 girls yesterday (that failed after a few days of trying to BF) that were giving me 'advise'? I mean, drinking tons of cow's milk to help me produce milk... really??? that is going to help my supply? I'm thinking not.. how about just amp up my liquid intake in general?!! That's the advise I have gotten from women who BF!
I feel awful, but why would I want advise from them since they gave up after a few days "oh, I never got engorged"or "my milk never came in" or "baby just wanted a bottle"... from what i've read, its all about persaverance and I believe they both gave up too easily. From everything I'm trying to educate myself about BFing, it's not easy, in fact it can be really hard!!!
I know I should be listening, but I'd rather get advise from women who actually ARE BF'ing... is that wrong??!!
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Re: Was it totally wrong..
Nope not wrong IMO, I wouldn't listen to them either. Drink lots of cow's milk?! Not good advice-most babies are sensitive to the protein in cow's milk. Then the pediatrician (if not supportive of bf'ing) will tell you that you have to discontinue because babe is allergic to your milk. Drink lots of water-your body will let you know if you need more!
Also, I never had a lot of engorgement and we are bf'ing successfully with no supply issues, so that doesn't always=not being able to bf .
I don't think it's wrong. However, I wouldn't be so judgey because quite honestly, breastfeeding is the hardest thing I've ever done. I knew it would be hard. I took breastfeeding classes. I read up on it. But until I started breastfeeding, I was totally unprepared for just how difficult it would be. I had many times of feeling like a failure. Feeling like I might have to give up but not wanting to.
I swear, it was only because I'm such a stubborn ass that I stuck with it. I am so glad I did, though, because now it is great. But in those first couple of weeks I know why so many women give up. It's hard. Not to mention the fact that you're hormones are wacko after giving birth.
So I don't think it's wrong to not take their advice. But I wouldn't judge them for giving up "too easily." No doubt about it, breastfeeding is hard and some people just find that for their own sanity, it's better to bottlefeed. I try not to judge the reasons why. You know what I mean?
I don't think it was wrong as long as you were not rude to them. They may be coming off like it was no big deal that they weren't successful at BFing but inside they may be really upset about it. I have a friend like that, to most people it seems like she's not upset but she has told me in private it was heartbreaking for her.
I think it sounds like you know that there will be challenges and you are ready to meet them which is an excellent first step to successfull BFing in my opinion. GL!!
TTC#2 October 2011. June 2012 diagnosed with mild PCOS and both tubes blocked.
10/1/12 miracle BFP 11/12/12 missed m/c (9w2d), baby stopped growing at 7 weeks
1/16/13 BFP, EDD 9/27/13, m/c 1/19/13
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Okay first of all, this is wholely untrue and COMPLETELY rude and judgemental. My milk never came in completely, and I have spent the last 12 weeks of my life trying literally everything to get a supply in (INCLUDING NURSING MY LO 'ROUND THE CLOCK) - and I have absolutely no medical condition that the 5 doctors/practitioners I've seen can identify.
Secondly, as someone who's tried everything and read every single book, article, etc about breastfeeding, how it works, the way breasts function, what the milk does, why it does what it does, etc... I know a SH!T-TON about it. I've never experienced engorgement, but I've been through the ringer with all the other typical BFing issues, including low supply problems. I'd venture to say I know just as much if not more about it than the average EBFer. So yeah, I'd say I'm qualified to give advice.
Lastly - to the OP - I have to say I think I missed the post you're refering to (at least I think I did, unless it happens to be one I weighed in on and don't remember), but if the person giving you advice was someone who only BFed for a week or two, then you have every right to ignore their advice for the most part, IMO. However if it was someone like myself who has never been able to EBF but has tried everything, they probably had some good advice. Anyway, I don't mean to jump on you, I just saw crozette's response to your OP and it riled me up, so I had to get all that out.
THIS!
Except that someone like CollieJade who has had bfing issues may in fact know a heck of a lot more about bfing than someone like me who hasn't had that many issues, even though I've BF longer than she has.
Am I a "successful" BFing mom? Yes. In fact, I'm a freaking dairy cow. I am nursing my second child, and with both kids, I got cracked nipples one time in the first week or so, and that was IT. That was my biggest BFing problem. I've never had mastitis or supply problems or anything serious. Why? I have no freaking clue. Maybe it's genetic, maybe I'm just lucky. Because I've not have many issues with BFing, I can't really advise you on how to end up like me. I can't give you any magical secret recipe for having a huge supply like mine or how to not get clogged ducts.
If you've nursed, you have experience that you can share. Saying that someone should be ignored because they didn't nurse as long as you hope to or weren't as "successful" at it as you hope to be is ridiculous. I'd hate to miss out on helpful advice from a knowledgeable mother solely because that person didn't meet some "experience" standard I had in mind.
Meredith, 6-1-06 and Alex, 11-5-09
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