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I Feel So Guilty...

BarnesoBarneso
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About not exchanging gifts with DH this year.  We both want to not do it because there are a million expenses but I still feel crappy.

His Birthday is Dec 19th - I picked up the Star Trek DVD and also the Star Trek Blu-Ray (different features or something) because he's very into them. Which seems like a lame-ass birthday present, but it's something.

Then we've got Christmas - and we've both decided not to do anything...

THEN, we've got our wedding anniversary on 12/27...

Any ideas on what I can do for him for that, at least?  Think low-cost! 

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  • BarnesoBarneso

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    There's that.  You know, that's not a bad idea. 

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  • murfygirlmurfygirl member

    I can think of something he would love thats free Stick out tongue

    DH and I at first weren't going to do xmas gifts but then he got upset saying how we didn't last year either and its funt o see the presents under the tree(he needs kids) So I agreed to do stocking stuffers! Its cheap but fun to do. Favorite candies, maybe some socks, a bunch of cheaper things!

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  • whitward87whitward87

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    Yes It's free and its the gift that keeps on giving! he will never forget Christmas of 09'.

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  • murfygirlmurfygirl member

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    Well I wasn't going to be so blunt about I thought my little hint was enough but great minds great minds 

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  • shimmerairbrushshimmerairbrush

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    Whoa! We don't go passing that out freely ya know!

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  • carlysuesmithcarlysuesmith
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    Yes It's free and its the gift that keeps on giving! he will never forget Christmas of 09'.

    LOL

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  • JaredandKatieJaredandKatie member

    Oh hon, I can TOTALLY relate.  My hubby's birthday is on 12/25...also happens to be Christmas day and my EDD!!  AND our anniversary is 12/31!!!  We already decided to do very small christmas gifts and I still have no idea what I'm going to do about birthday or anniversary, let alone Christmas/bday gifts for baby.  I just have to keep telling myself it's not going to be this tight every year.  Hubby and I will look back at this year and smile...we're meeting our son or daughter for the first time and we just have to keep reminding ourselves of that.  Money is tight, but all three of us are healthy and happy. 

    Sorry that is not practical or useful advice, but I just wanted to tell you that I know exactly what you're feeling... :)

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  • BarnesoBarneso
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    I can think of something he would love thats free Stick out tongue

    DH and I at first weren't going to do xmas gifts but then he got upset saying how we didn't last year either and its funt o see the presents under the tree(he needs kids) So I agreed to do stocking stuffers! Its cheap but fun to do. Favorite candies, maybe some socks, a bunch of cheaper things!

    That's a good idea.  Oral for our anniversary and stocking stuffers for XMAS.  

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    Oh hon, I can TOTALLY relate.  My hubby's birthday is on 12/25...also happens to be Christmas day and my EDD!!  AND our anniversary is 12/31!!!  We already decided to do very small christmas gifts and I still have no idea what I'm going to do about birthday or anniversary, let alone Christmas/bday gifts for baby.  I just have to keep telling myself it's not going to be this tight every year.  Hubby and I will look back at this year and smile...we're meeting our son or daughter for the first time and we just have to keep reminding ourselves of that.  Money is tight, but all three of us are healthy and happy. 

    Sorry that is not practical or useful advice, but I just wanted to tell you that I know exactly what you're feeling... :)

    Glad to hear it.  I totally agree.  Honestly, I'm fine with not doing any thing - That's not what's important to me but I just want to make things really nice for him.

    Granted, he could give a ***.  He forgot his own birthday several times when he was single and he's one of seven kids so holidays were never equated with 500 gifts under the tree. 

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  • murfygirlmurfygirl member
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    I can think of something he would love thats free Stick out tongue

    DH and I at first weren't going to do xmas gifts but then he got upset saying how we didn't last year either and its funt o see the presents under the tree(he needs kids) So I agreed to do stocking stuffers! Its cheap but fun to do. Favorite candies, maybe some socks, a bunch of cheaper things!

    That's a good idea.  Oral for our anniversary and stocking stuffers for XMAS.  

    See its a good thing I didn't go clean you still need me for your presents. I know DH would love some oral (i've been pulling the gag reflex since BFP poor guy) Maybe I will put a get one free card in his stocking?!

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  • Melissa & EddieMelissa & Eddie member
    We decided to not exchange gifts either but then we both felt bad so we are doing a two gift max and a couple stocking items.  We've put a total limit of $50.00 on it.  Which year anniverary are you celebrating?  There are a lot of websites catering to the year with a bunch of inexpensive ideas.  Hope this helps :)   
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    I can think of something he would love thats free Stick out tongue

    DH and I at first weren't going to do xmas gifts but then he got upset saying how we didn't last year either and its funt o see the presents under the tree(he needs kids) So I agreed to do stocking stuffers! Its cheap but fun to do. Favorite candies, maybe some socks, a bunch of cheaper things!

    That's a good idea.  Oral for our anniversary and stocking stuffers for XMAS.  

    See its a good thing I didn't go clean you still need me for your presents. I know DH would love some oral (i've been pulling the gag reflex since BFP poor guy) Maybe I will put a get one free card in his stocking?!

    LOL

    You know another present I could give DH?

    A clean-shaven "downstairs" would be nice instead of the 70's Afro Puff I've got going on. 

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  • BarnesoBarneso
    It's our first anniversary which makes me feel even worse.  Sets a bad precedent.
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  • murfygirlmurfygirl member
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    I can think of something he would love thats free Stick out tongue

    DH and I at first weren't going to do xmas gifts but then he got upset saying how we didn't last year either and its funt o see the presents under the tree(he needs kids) So I agreed to do stocking stuffers! Its cheap but fun to do. Favorite candies, maybe some socks, a bunch of cheaper things!

    That's a good idea.  Oral for our anniversary and stocking stuffers for XMAS.  

    See its a good thing I didn't go clean you still need me for your presents. I know DH would love some oral (i've been pulling the gag reflex since BFP poor guy) Maybe I will put a get one free card in his stocking?!

    LOL

    You know another present I could give DH?

    A clean-shaven "downstairs" would be nice instead of the 70's Afro Puff I've got going on. 

    Good luck with that! I can't even see mine I would need help getting the puff gone. Thank God its not summer time or I would be one of those gross older ladies with hair sticking out my swimsuit Ick!

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  • MrsC17MrsC17

    please, no one tell my DH that oral is "free"...he might get some wild ideas Wink

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    please, no one tell my DH that oral is "free"...he might get some wild ideas Wink

    SHHH I'll keep your secret!

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  • Melissa & EddieMelissa & Eddie member

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    It's our first anniversary which makes me feel even worse.  Sets a bad precedent.

    First Anniversary tradition is paper...you could do a card, a book, sexy time coupon book, etc. try this website for some other ideas:

    https://www.anniversary-gifts-by-year.com/traditional-wedding-anniversary-gifts.html

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  • nickiclnickicl member

    Well I guess I am not like some of the other people here because I don't believe any type of sex should be a once a year gift. 

    Anyway though I like the ideas of stocking stuffers or other small gifts.  We have a lot of holidays lumped together as well.  My bday is 12/24, our anniversary is 01/08 and we have some family bdays in addition to Xmas and next thing you know its Valentine's day. 

    We typically do something in late Jan for Anniversary and Vday combined such as a small weekend getaway or a set of luggage.

    For anniversaries past we have tried to do small sentimental things.  For our first yr going with the "paper" theme I gave him a travel journal and wrote him a love letter (which is sooo unlike me usually).  He got me a silk flower bouquet which was exact replica of the one from our wedding (granted that prob wasn't cheap but it wasn't crazy jewelry expensive either). 

    Other ideas:  cleaning his car, making favorite meal, taking car of his portion of chores so he can relax. .anyway I think those types of things are always nice.


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    As a side note...If he gets oral sex, so should you Stick out tongue

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    As a side note...If he gets oral sex, so should you Stick out tongue

    Yes

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  • theredvixentheredvixen
    He, he this post is cracking me up! DH and I decided not to buy each other presents this year either, too many baby things that we need before LO arrives. We are doing stockings though. I usually put a DVD in there, some favorite candies, an ornament, you know things like that. Oh, DH is also very techy so I will also usually get him some little electronic thing, like last year I got him a mini LED flashlight that looked like a computer chip.
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