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Moms with 2 or more kids -- a telling work Q
Were you able to wait as long to tell work with your second pregnancy as your first? With my first, I waited until 14 weeks and wasn't showing hardly at all. This time, I am feeling bigger than that already, and I'm only 8 weeks. I have a Bella Band on today, and this morning, I looked poochy. It has been bloat-city the last week, but this morning, I look more "pregnant." I can't wear bulky clothes that often, either. I put a sweater on today since it's Friday, but this is really a suit environment.
Ideally, I'd like to wait until after a big arbitration I have the second week of January and my annual review, but that would put me at almost 15 weeks. Any chance of hiding it that long?
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Re: Moms with 2 or more kids -- a telling work Q
This time of year (ie thick sweaters) maybe.
I told people at 10 weeks with DS, there was NO hiding it. People had been guessing/talking for a couple of weeks already.
I waited this time to officially tell until around 13 wks b/c I'd told earlier last winter and ended up w/ a m/c. But my supervisor really already knew- I'd had co-workers guess at 7 wks b/c I had a little pooch (I'm tiny so it's obvious if something's different) plus I was snacking a lot. But we're a tight knit group so it wasn't a big deal- they were super happy for me. I was really starting to show around 13/14 wks but it was also summer so I had more form fitting t-shirts on (I run a summer program so it's a bit casual since we're sprinting around campus).
Since it's winter you can probably pull it off w/ baggy clothes but it's not like it's their business anyway. I think you should tell whenever you're most comfortable- it's a personal choice.
I told 14wks both times. This time I regretted it. Even though I felt as big as a house, no one seemed to notice (strategic clothing). I shocked everyone. AND I told before the review process was complete, not that it matters as I was just promoted mid-cycle.
I say hold your tong and spill the beans in the new year!
I work from home, so it was easy to hide
But I did have a business trip at 13 weeks, and no one guessed that I was pregnant. I wasn't trying to hide it, as I had already told my boss and some of my co-workers had found out as well, but it wasn't super-obvious or anything. And that was in the middle of summer (July). With baggy winter clothes, I think I easily could've made it to 15 weeks.
Mommy to DD1 (June 2007), DS (January 2010), DD2 (July 2012), and The Next One (EDD 3/31/2015)
It might be worth it to invest in a suit or two a size (or two) up to help you hid it through your arbitration (and for your comfort too). You should be ok. Even if they're speculating, would anyone actually ask you?
Also, this is bad, but this time of year lots of people put on a few pounds so it might not be as suspicious.
ETA: You could also be able to get away with more casual clothes for the next month too, since it's the holidays.