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Advice please (friend's m/c mentioned)

shotzieshotzie member
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A good friend of mine recently gave me a baby gift.  I've been a slacker and have yet to send a thank you card.  Well, today, I found out she had a m/c.  :(  She had just found out she was pg a couple days before she gave me the gift.  I feel weird sending her a thank you card as I don't want it to cause her more grief, but I hate not sending a thank you at all...What do you guys think I should do? 

 

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Re: Advice please (friend's m/c mentioned)

  • katt3233katt3233 member

    I would wait a couple weeks then send a thank you card. 

    My ectopic was discovered 2 weeks ago.  Today is the first day I feel almost at peace with it, so I think giving her some time will help. 

    I hope that helps.

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    ....and (((HUGS))) to your friend...
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  • KLRoyKLRoy
    Perhaps send her a card thanking her for the gift and one expressing your sympathy at the same time?  Waiting a bit sounds like a good idea too, but if it were me, I would probably forget about it.  Embarrassed
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  • hopefulrockygirlhopefulrockygirl
    did she give it to you in person? If so then I"m sure you thanked her then, that will be enough in this case. After my m/c and even now it wouldn't occur to me to even remember (or care) I should get a thank you for a baby gift I gave in person. just express your thanks by using the gift and telling her about it some day when some time has passed. you are a good friend for even thinking about her feelings that was nice of you.
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  • katt3233katt3233 member

    imagehopefulrockygirl:
      you are a good friend for even thinking about her feelings that was nice of you.

    Yes you are!

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    They're separate issues. I would still send a thank you card. Maybe wait a week or so, but I'd still send one.

    And don't mention the m/c in the TY (but I know you won't). Maybe send her a note about that immediately.

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  • shotzieshotzie member

    Thanks for the input, ladies.  I am going to send her a "thinking of you" -or something of the sort- card today.  She did give me the gift in person but I didn't open it in front of her.  She brought it to my sister's baby shower b/c she was going to be oot for mine tomorrow.  I did thank her for the gift though...I might see if it feels appropriate to send a formal thank you in a couple weeks. 

    ((Hugs)) to you, Katt. 

    someecardscom - Im well on my way to getting absolutely nothing done today
    DD1: allergic to eggs & dairy Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    c/p 4/1/11

    DD2: milk and soy protein intolerant, allergic to eggs, soy, peanuts, tree nuts, sesame, bananasBaby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    MSPI Moms Check-In Blog
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