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Choosing to have a C-Section.

Megan55Megan55 member
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I couldn't tell you the amount of people who ask me if I'm going to try to have the baby naturally or if I'm just going to get a c-section. Everytime I get asked this question I laugh because I don't understand how they don't realize it is not something you choose to do! And when I explain this to them they always say they would rather have a c-section because it will hurt less. I do realize some people opt for elective c-sections, but not many doctors will perform them. Does anyone else get asked this question or are my friends just crazy?

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  • qtjess1110qtjess1110
    Crazy....
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  • Lance&BeccaLance&Becca
    I've never been asked this question but I've read that elective C-Sections are on the rise.
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  • elizbritt09elizbritt09
    My entire family tells this to me all the time.  For reasons not in their control such as breech babies, umbilical cord issues, and distressed babies they have all had c-sections and never really felt labor at all.  They think that it is so much easier and that I must be crazy to want to actually labor with my baby.  I tell them over and over that doctors DON'T just schedule these!  C-sections are MAJOR surgeries...I think that they forget that.  I would much rather go through something that is natural for my body to go through then have a c-section.  The thought of surgery scares me so much...I only pray that my labor and delivery will go smoothly and this will not be needed. 
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  • MrsC17MrsC17
    No one has really asked me that.  I think sometimes people who haven't been pregnant don't really know all the facts about stuff like this--I can honestly say before I was pregnant I was completely under the impression that a c-section was nothing and it would be a lot easier than vaginal birth and less painful.  Being pregnant I had to become educated on it and realized that a vaginal birth is best for everyone.  I was also someone who (prior to pregnancy) swore up and down I wouldn't breast feed because I didn't want the baby latched to me 24/7 and didn't want my boobs to become all out of shape and yadda yadda yadda.  Guess who's all geared up for breastfeeding? LOL. I guess ya just never know how you're going to feel about something until you're in the situation!
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  • tklmechris98tklmechris98
    never been asked.
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  • shimmerairbrushshimmerairbrush
    This gets me as well. I mean everyone has a right to their own birthing choices, but...my bff says she is going to elect for a c-section when she gives birth (not preg yet), because she doesn't want to go through what she saw me go through! I was like "whaaaat??!!" Umm, atleast I could get up out of bed and resume my regular life after a couple days...she doesn't realize that a c-section, as common as they are, are still major surgeries!
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  • epphdepphd member
    I think your friends are crazy too :)
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  • Shana051008Shana051008 member
    I am asked that question often from all of my friends, it's like they think you can just go in and order your labor and delivery off of a menu or something!!!  Maybe it's because they are in their early 20's and haven't had kids yet, or they are just crazy.  I am 24 and knew before I even became pregnant that you could not just opt for a C-section. 
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  • ibisibis member
    No one's asked me that, but people are crazy if they think a C-section automatically "hurts less." Recovery can be a biitch.
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  • mrs_siscomrs_sisco
    The one question I always get is, "Are you going to try to birth naturally?" Uh...yeah...I'm going to try...
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  • BoizmomBoizmom member

    Everyone who knows me knows that I would never in a million years elect to have another c-section.  I hated my first one and it wasn't my choice.  I had a VBAC with my second and plan on vaginal delivery this time as well.  This time however I am going natural...no inducing and no epidural.  I am frequently asked about the going natural part though.  I don't like to broadcast that I am going natural though because it prompts too many questions to which the answers are slightly complicated.  So when people ask I just avoid the topic as best I can.

    My best friend is having an elective c-section...her second.  There are many doctors out there who will perform these, at least here in Texas as far I have seen.  Elective c-sections are on the rise...women who like my friend want the convience of choosing their child's birthday, want to avoid "the pain of labor" and in my friend's case....she wants to avoid hemmroids from pushing.  Honest to God that's one of her biggest reasons.  To each their own I suppose.

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  • ccorneauccorneau

    the 1st thing my (previous) OB said to me at my 1st prenatal appointment was, "I want yo to know it is your legal medical right to elect to have a c-section if you's like to avoid a vaginal birth"

    I was like, Buddy I'm 8 weeks pregnant - maybe we'll talk about birthing options when I at least LOOK pregnant!

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  • nolabride0605nolabride0605

    I opted to have a repeat c-section because the last one was a c-section (not my choice the first time around). I had to switch doctors/hospitals because of a military move and a VBAC was not an option at the place I moved from. Here, I can have a VBAC, but I feel more mentally prepared for a repeat c-section. So, we went ahead and scheduled it.

    I got the paperwork for it today and they keep using the word "elective" which makes me feel a little uncomfortable. I did decide that if he wants to make an appearance before the scheduled date, then I would try a VBAC. Who knows what this LO will decide to do....

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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member
    Wow.  I'm so stressed and have almost cried at the fact that I'll have to have a c/s (Baby A is breech).  I would never choose to have a c/s.
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  • jdouglas84jdouglas84 member
    I haven't been asked this, but I think some people don't realize how bad the recovery from a c-section can be. It's major surgery; personally I would not elect to have surgery, it scares me.
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  • senoritaemilysenoritaemily
    Lots of doctors will offer elective C-sections - in fact, many prefer it because they can schedule it and pencil it in on their calendars (apparently childbirth at any time is an inconvenience for some!). I have friends who have given birth both vaginally and through C-section, and the feedback I've heard in terms of recovery is that a C-section is so much easier to recover from (obivously everyone's experience is different). I want to experience childbirth, and wouldn't opt for a C-section, but if I had to have one I wouldn't mind.
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