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not wanting shower here
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Hi -
My mother is dead set on having the babies' shower at her house. I really love my mom and everything she does, but her house is really cluttered with knick knacks and stuff, like you on those makeover shows, and her house is really small. And I'm kind of embarrassed by her bathroom. Because I wanted to get her off my case one day, I said fine. Now I'm regretting it and would rather it be at a restaurant or something. Am I being selfish and should just be thankful for what I get? I was going to invite my friends from work and such, but I'm kind of embarrassed.
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Re: not wanting shower here
Yes, be thankful. This is HER house, not yours. No one is going to judge you for it.
And having at a restaurant is a LOT more expensive, so no, it's not your place to tell her to have it at a restaurant. Her $$, her choice.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
If the main issues are just that it's small and cluttered, I'd say deal with it - it shouldn't reflect on you.
"This ribbon has been reported." - lovesnina
after anovulatory diagnosis and TTC for 1 1/2yrs with several medicated cycles and one chemical pregnancy, we have our first bundle of joy!
IT'S A GIRL!
#2 EDD 2/5/13 dx with anti-BIG E antibody, seeing a MFM
I don't take one single minute for granted.
I would ask her if you could have it at your house. Excuses: That way you won't have to transport everything to your house from hers. Also, maybe you want to show off the nursery to all your friends? I actually think it is a good idea anyway and these are my reasons for requesting that my shower be held at my home.
That said, your friends and co workers won't care about what your mom's house looks like. However, I can see where you are coming from as I was nervous about this too for my wedding shower. But I got over it and it worked out fine.
PS It looks like you have a looong time to figure this out, so don't stress about it now!!
Good luck!
Oh boy, people were harsh! I feel for you...you want your shower to be pretty and you want everyone you know to think it's pretty too, and we're all embarassed by our families at times. I have the same problem w/ some of my family members and it's not so much that I don't want people to judge me, as that I can't stand the thought of people judging THEM. I love my family and that thought stresses me out.
I think it would not be nice to insist on a restaurant, but I like the above idea about asking if it could be at your house so you don't have to transport gifts and you could show off the baby room. I think those are legitimate reasons and would relieve any anxiety you might have. Nothing worse than not being able to enjoy your shower b/c you're anxious....