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AimeeL85
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When you picture your family "complete"...
AimeeL85
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in Infertility
...what do you picture?
I have been thinking about what my expectations and hopes were for what size family we'd have and how I don't want to have to change that because of IF but that it might be unrealistic to hold out hope that I can have the family I picture...
We have both said we'd love to have 4 kids, maybe even 5. I realize sometimes people think they want a big family and then start having children and realize how hard it is and change that number, but I really think if it weren't for IF, we would have 4 or 5. I don't want to give up that family because of freakin' IF. Even if our RE is optimistic about our IVF, how many couples really go back for that many cycles? The money, the time, the stress of it...and I know it's going to be even more difficult emotionally than I anticipate it is. I don't want to sound greedy, I'm just not ready to give up the dream of the family that I want..
So I was wondering...what do you think of when you think about the future and picture your family as complete? Do you still picture the number of kids you'd want if you weren't dealing with IF? Do you picture just one, or not even think about it at all? IF sucks.
DS (7 years old) from FET in 2010
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
TTC 3rd and final!: IUI #1 in progress!
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
TTC 3rd and final!: IUI #1 in progress!
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Re: When you picture your family "complete"...
We still picture our "complete" family the way we did before we started TTC.
We'd like two children. ?We picture a boy first and then a girl, but as long as they are healthy, we'd be more than ecstatic. ?We always thought we'd have our children about 3-4 years apart from each other.?
Obviously, life is not going "as we planned" at this moment...but I guess that's why they call it life =0)?
Up until recently I thought of my perfect family as a girl first, a boy, and then another girl. Surprisingly, I got a psychic reading that said I would have just that! Of course I took it with a grain of salt... Lately I've been wanting a set of twins! I don't know why! Somehow I talked DH into the idea of it... I have an appointment with my doctor in January to finally start clomid and I'll have to ask her if it would even be possible for me! I have a small frame and would hate for something to go terribly wrong... Clomid increases chances of twins, but I've also been reading up on African yams and okra and how they can increase chances so if I get the ok from the doc I'll definitely be trying it! I'll be more than happy with one baby though!
If we are blessed with twins we'll probably have at least one or two more after that if possible! I would kill for just ONE!
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We've always wanted 2-3 kids and a dog and a cat, we have the dog and cat so we just need the kids
I'm still holding on to that dream w/ slight adjustments. If we adopt it'll be 2 and no more (unfortunately it's unlikely we'd be able to afford more than 2 adoptions), if this fet works and we have #2 and have snowbabies left we're going to see how we feel about trying for 1 more.
We always agreed on this: At least two, at most four. I think three or four was always kind of my dream, and two to three was always his--so we agreed we'd just see how it goes and make decisions accordingly. We'd both be over the moon at three, but things don't happen as you plan, and we wanted to be prepared for that.
For example, here we are, infertile, doing IVF. Now that this wrench has been thrown into the works, I can't say we've changed our ideals, but we're a lot more focused on this part of the picture now than we are on the whole picture.
this is how i feel too - if my twins had made it, we would have stopped with them - i always pictured boy/girl twins and we ALMOST made it....now i hope to just have one of our own - either sex is fine with me - - I would love to have at least two and DH and I both agree that we will never prevent again and use all of our frozen embies - so we could possibly have a huge family....we really changed our attitudes after our loss and dh is convinced that the loss was to change our hearts about having more than two (that it was the purpose for those two babies)....
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