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Opinion on maybe sensitive matter.

MelissaSue81MelissaSue81 member
in Upstate NY Babies

Or maybe its silly.. I keep going back and forth..

On the other board I go on..we are having a secret santa exchange. The girl I drew has a baby about Eve's age.. So in addition to the other stuff, I was having my mom make her a Baby's First Christmas Ornament for him.. Well on Monday she posted a BFP. They had just started trying.. So I called my mom and told her to also make her LO a "Big Brother to Be" ornament.. 

Now.. as many of you know.. the other board is a spin off of the parenting after loss board on the nest.. so all these girls have had at least one m/c before.. I am going to mail the stuff on Friday or Saturday.. Do you think it is too soon to be sending something like that? She already has pics of her LO in a big brother shirt..(She bought it before she got pg). But.. gosh..I would feel so bad if I sent it and then something happened..to have an ornament like that.. I just don't know.. On the other hand.. everything is likely to be totally fine.. and then it will be an awesome gift.. 

 

Melissa & Jeff 5-27-06
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
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Re: Opinion on maybe sensitive matter.

  • JenJarJenJar
    I think I'd do the first Christmas one instead.  But, we have had a bad experience with this tpye of situation.  My aunt announced she was pregnant on Thanksgiving to the family a few years back.  They were 9 weeks or so.  Well, my mom sent their Christmas card addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Mann and "Little Mann."  The day after she mailed it, my aunt called to tell us she'd m/c.  Luckily, my uncle got the mail the day the card came, and my aunt never even saw it.  Like you said, things are likely to be fine, but it would be really bad if something did happen.
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  • jnk062602jnk062602

    I would send it and think it is a wonderful gift.  She bought her LO the big brother shirt and took pics of him wearing it, so I would think the ornament is no worse than the shirt. 

    And I may be completely off base since I don't have experience.  But I was thinking if that happened I would still think of the baby and cherish the time everything was ok.  I wouldn't hang the ornament, but I would keep it in my drawer in my bedroom and look at it occasionally.

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  • JenJarJenJar
    I do agree with K, too :)  I guess I was just thinking of the timing of my aunt's situation.  If she received the gift and something happens later, I definitely think she'll still cherish the memory and hold on to it forever.  I guess my worry would be if something happened just after you sent the ornament it might be hard to see.  Does that make sense?
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  • MelissaSue81MelissaSue81 member
    yes jen.. i do see that point too. although i'm obviously going to watch for her posts and she SHOULD get it the day after i send it i think.. she does not live too far. i am leaning toward sending it.. i just dont want to do anything hurtful.. ya know?
    Melissa & Jeff 5-27-06
    m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
    Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
    Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
    imagebabies
    baby growth
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  • TelycoTelyco

    I'd just stick with a 1st Xmas one.

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  • MsZoeBMsZoeB

    How far along is she? I know you said she just posted but some women will still wait until 8-12 weeks to let the boards know about a BFP especially if they have had a loss.

    My response would depend on how far along she is and what sort of medical confirmations she has gotten. In other words, she is close to the end of her 1st tri, strong beta's or a positive U/S then I would send it along. If she only has a HPT then I think I would hold off a bit.

    When do you have to send your gifts? I know that you want to send them this week but would it really hurt to send them a little bit later giving her time to have more confirmation?

    I think that it sounds like a cute gift but I worry about the implications if anything should go wrong. 

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  • MrsWhiteonWhiteStMrsWhiteonWhiteSt
    I say go for the Big Brother to be. Its a greta idea and I think the holidays are a time for optimism!
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  • orangeluckorangeluck
    I love the idea of the big brother one and it seems like she is open enough to share her pregnancy journey with others so I could see how it would be a good gift for her and her son.  You are sending it to her with the best of intentions and joy afterall.  Still, I myself would probably would chicken out and stick with the first Christmas one which still is an excellent gift. 
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