Can I be first????

les&jus · December 2009

I have always dealt with depression, but I didn't think I would suffer from PPD as I was sooo happy when pregnant. It isn't too bad, but the thing that has been the worst is losing the bond with my husband. We used to spend every free minute cuddling or kissing or going out somewhere fun together and it has been hard to have that come to a dead stop. Whenever the baby is sleep, I am trying to catch up on my own sleep or housework, so it has been hard to find special time together. I feel like we have lost the "us."

Who is with me???

a003vp · December 2009

Me as well, but I talk to my hubby and have had made time and have him take some of the house hold things that can stress me out and make me not intrested in him. I find when the load is taken half away I have more time for myself and the house gets that much cleaner faster i can cuddle and play with my baby and Husband!

farrellashleigh · December 2009

yea I hear you, it's definitely at the bottom of the priority list when it comes to everything else... I'm just waiting for the clouds to lift because I KNOW it will get better and I think that talking about it with DH helps, we both are able to voice our concerns and at least keep the communication open.

AJluvsLI · December 2009

This isn't exactly us but my sex drive is at a complete zero and I know DH is frustrated. He tries to be understanding but I know it's not easy for him but I still just have no energy or desire for sexy time. I feel so bad about it

beastmel04 · December 2009

I am totally with you. For the first month, I would have a breakdown at least once a day because I felt like I HAD to get the housework done and care for our son or I was a bad wife and mother.

I still feel guilty when DH has to come home and cook dinner or clean up after us, but I think he prefers to do those things instead of coming home to a blubbering mess of a wife everyday.

EDIT: And yes, I completely miss my husband. Sometimes I cry over that as well, even if he is right beside me, holding my hand.

MrsBro6116 · December 2009

And I will go second.

I have also dealt with depression and had an easy uncomplicated pregnancy and delivery. I can not agree with you more on the feeling as if I have lost a bond with my husband. Finding the balance between a wife/mom/employee/daughter is more difficult than I imagined. I'm contanstly asking myself am I tired/blah because of home/work/thebaby, etc or am I getting depressed. I try to keep tabs but sometimes the line is too gray.

PS - Thanks BumpGods for this board.

i*heart*him · December 2009

I feel like my DH and I are like roomates, I hate it. I just want one night alone to get some of the "old us" back

11Lemon11 · December 2009

Roommates is a great way of describing how it is at our house, though I have to give you all some hope. Now that Miles is getting older and has more of a routine, DH and I are getting back into the swing of our relationship.

kimsy · December 2009

I agree, but mostly because I feel like I have lost myself. I feel like a completely different person. I am really trying, though.

les&jus · December 2009

It sure is nice to know I am not alone. I haven't been at all interested in sex either, especially since I am not back down to pre-preg size and am experiencing all the lovely post-preg things that happen to my body! I guess we will have to keep communication open and just wait it out.

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