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WWYD about a Co-worker?

NY-allieNY-allie
in Babies: 9 - 12 Months

I have a co-worker who is about 8.5 months pregnant.  I was talking to her last week and she mentioned that she is planning on a home birth (which I believe is her choice to make).  My problem is that she told us that she hasn't yet told her hubby that she plans on a home birth and doesn't plan on telling him until its too late for him to take her to the hospital.  (She's told him its a backup option in case her labor comes on early). 

DH and I are friends with her hubby and now I feel guilty about not telling him.  Would you do anything or just mind your own business?

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Re: WWYD about a Co-worker?

  • Snowy_OwlSnowy_Owl
    Stay FAR away from this mess.
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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    I have no advice - but I hope everything turns out okay for that family. I think home birth sounds like an amazing option but I think it also has to be done safely and not spur of the moment arranged?

    Good luck!  

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  • eml569eml569
    If she goes into labor while he's there, I don't see any way she can keep it to herself long enough that it will be too late to get to the hospital. Is she planning on having a midwife or doula there to help? How is she planning on cutting the cord? What if there's a problem? This sounds like an incredibly poorly thought out plan. Is there any way you can play off like you don't know the husband didn't know and just mention it offhand to him "Wow! You guys are really courageous for planning a home birth! I couldn't have done that!" or something equally off the cuff. Either way, he needs to know. 
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  • NY-allieNY-allie

    She's planned this out in amazing detail.  She's already got a midwife and doula who will be there and all of the equipment she needs.  He husband works long hours so he probably won't be around when she goes into labor, she is supposed to call him or have a neighbor drive her to the hospital, but she plans to wait to call him until the last possible minuet. 

    In case this matters its her third child, so she knows what she's getting into.  

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  • ASUsundevil97ASUsundevil97
    definitely mind your own business.  she sounds like a train wreck!  who would keep this from a husband....but tell a co-worker????  WEIRD!
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  • piveypivey member
    This is not your business. A little tip: NEVER involve yourself in other peoples marriages. You will always lose a friend.
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  • eml569eml569
    imageNY-allie:

    She's planned this out in amazing detail.  She's already got a midwife and doula who will be there and all of the equipment she needs.  He husband works long hours so he probably won't be around when she goes into labor, she is supposed to call him or have a neighbor drive her to the hospital, but she plans to wait to call him until the last possible minuet. 

    In case this matters its her third child, so she knows what she's getting into.  

    Well, in that case....I would leave it alone. Say a little prayer that this all goes well and zip it :) 

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