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Random vent re: when to try for another

Beccaboo0713Beccaboo0713 member
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I had a really hard time getting pregnant and staying pregnant. I have PCOS and IR and I have had a LEEP. For some reason unrelated to all that my placenta started dying and I don't even know if my placenta dying was a fluke or if it could/will happen again. Anyway DH wants to wait till Jacob is 4 to start trying again but if we do that and it takes as long as it took the first time Jacob could be 7 before we have the baby...or older if we can even have another baby. But we definately want 3 or 4 years inbetween the kids. I could really use a crystal ball right now. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just stick a fork in it and call it one and done.
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Re: Random vent re: when to try for another

  • nuestra _bodanuestra _boda member

    1st of all cool pic!!!!

    well If you had those problems I would say start trying again when DS is 2? if you get pregnant right the way they'll have 3 years between them if not they won't be as far a part?

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  • ljlkmljlkm

    First of all, that is one adorable freakin' picture.

    Secondly, why don't you split the difference and start trying when he's 2?  That way, even if you got pregnant right away, it would still be 3 years difference, but if it took you the same amount of time, there would be 5 years difference, which isn't all that bad. 

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  • Beccaboo0713Beccaboo0713 member

    Thanks :)

     See that is what I am trying to convience DH. If we start when he is 2 it would be perfect but he wants them at least 4 years apart because we have to save for a bigger house. Right now we are in a 700 sq ft home and there is no room to spare. 

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  • MrsPreKMrsPreK
    I would definitely try and convince him to start trying sooner....but that is just me. GL!!
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  • BitterOldHagBitterOldHag
    Maybe you should go to a MFM for a pre-conception visit when you are ready. They might be able to help you with a timeline and what to expect.
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  • Beccaboo0713Beccaboo0713 member
    To top it all off we haven't had sex in 3 months because of various illnesses. First Jake keeping us up all night with his poor little cold then DH got REALLY sick with tick fever. Maybe I should club him over the head and jump him!
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  • nuestra _bodanuestra _boda member
    imageljlkm:

    First of all, that is one adorable freakin' picture.

    Secondly, why don't you split the difference and start trying when he's 2?  That way, even if you got pregnant right away, it would still be 3 years difference, but if it took you the same amount of time, there would be 5 years difference, which isn't all that bad. 

    hey great minds think alike!!

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  • moonfaeriemoonfaerie member

    I also have PCOS (and endometriosis) and couldn't get/stay pregnant until I had an ovary removed. Now that I only have one left, and we know we want a second kid, we're going to stop preventing pregnancy when DD is 6 or 8 months. I figure it will happen when it's supposed to, and I don't want to wait and then have my other ovary fail. I hear you about the cramped living space, but kids won't know the difference and you can move when they are toddlers. I would hate to see a deserving mom miss out on a lifetime of happiness with a second baby just because she's living in tight quarters for a couple of years.

    We live in a small house now and are moving to a small townhome in two weeks (losing my house due to my ex-husband) and ideally we want to buy our own home in 2-3 years, but hey if we are blessed with another baby then I will put up with delaying our goal. Best of luck with whatever you decide!

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  • jetgrrrljetgrrrl member

    I hear you. Because of my age I've told DH that if we want a second we need to start trying again next year around the time DS turns 1. Not sure either of us will be ready for that but I don't see how I could wait much longer.

    Of course, given the (non) frequency of sex in our lives, it will need to happen by immaculate conception!

     

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