Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

1 year ago today I was here (ticker warning)

One year ago, I joined this board, something no one wants to do.  We had a missed m/c that was discovered at 11w3d - our appointment where we had hoped to hear the heatbeat.  We were devastated and shocked.  We had a 2 year old dd, who was healthy and had an uneventful pregnancy with her.  One year ago, I sat in my living room crying with my dh, while we waited for our evening appointment for a D&C.  It was a horrible day of making phone calls to tell our families.  My D&C was uneventful and it was all over.  I felt so empty and sad.

We experienced a 2nd loss in April of this year after 9w5d.  Again, we were sad and devastated.  We had the chromosomal testing done, and came back that the baby had abnormalities that made her incompatible with life.  But that there wasn't an indication that we'd have another m/c.  We decided to stop trying and just give our minds a break!

We had a busy summer planned, including a trip to Las Vegas.  We went to Vegas, had a great time!  When we came back, we realized that I hadn't had my period.  I finally took a test, and BFP!!  I was excited, but cautious.  I didn't want to get too invested. 

Well, here I am a year after my first m/c, and I'm 28 weeks along with a healthy baby boy!  As difficult as the last year has been, I must say that I'm thankful for the experience.  If I had not gone through the two losses, the son that we are expecting would not have been a part of our family.  It would be an entirely different child (whom I'm sure we'd have loved).  But knowing that at the right time we would get pregnant again, and the right child would join our family, really helped me during the process.  So, here I am today, one year after the worst day of my life, and I'm sad for my loss, but also very thankful.  It has taught me a lot!  I'm so grateful for this pregnancy and this child. 

I'm sorry that each of you are a part of this board and that you've also experienced a loss.  This is not a club that any woman wants to be a part of.  I remembered hearing success stories when I was here, and I appreciated them, so I thought I'd share with you as well.  Good luck to you all! 

Re: 1 year ago today I was here (ticker warning)

  • Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story.  I can't speak for the other women on this board, but we are definitely hoping to try again and hearing success stories like this really gives me hope.  Thanks again and congratulations on your son.  Only a couple months to go!  I hope they are wonderful!
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  • Thank you for your post...exactly what I needed to hear.  After having an uneventful pregnancy with DD, I'm now going through my 2nd loss and am not understanding why this is happening.  Congratulations on your baby boy! 
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  • Thank you so much for your uplifting story.  I also had a very uneventful pregnancy with DS & he's a healthy kiddo.  With this late loss, we were stunned.  I really hope that a year from now I can come back here & share a similiar story to give women hope (minus the second loss would be nice).  Good luck & congrats on what I'm sure will be a beautiful & healthy baby boy.  They sure do love their mommas :)
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  • I feel so hopeful when I read stories like this.  Thank you.
    ~Married- 10.20.2007~ TTC Since- 4.3.2009 ~BFP#1- 8.25.2009 ~ Missed M/C and D&C-10.9.2009 ~BFP#2-8.12.2010 ~ EDD- 4.20.2011~ It
  • Congrats, and thanks so much for sharing your story.  It really does help to be reminded that there is hope.
  • Thank you!  I loved your story, much appreciated.
  • Thank you for sharing your story, and congratulations on your upcoming family addition!  It's nice to hear how you are celebrating one year after being on this board.  I hope I'm in your shoes next year--and I hope the same for all of us on this board!
  • Thank you for your post.  I am currently going through my 2nd loss and I have a 2 year old that was an uneventful pregnancy.  Thanks for reminding me to have hope
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