MIL Vent
This is my first and I have only told immediate family. I specifically asked for them to keep quiet until me and my FDH are ready to share our news....
This morning, after 3 hours of sleep because of m/s I get on myspace to find that my FMIL posted for the world to see "So how's my grandchild?"
It had been posted for 19 hours!!!!
So I have all kinds of people asking why I haven't said anything, including my family. I am so angry! Especially with our first baby! I haven't even had an ultrasound yet to see if everything is okay. I feel like she stole something special from us, something we will never get back... the news of our first pregnancy.
And all she could say was sorry I am excited....
But she is so excited that she still talks constantly to FDH
s ex wife, who left him for another man, and still refers to her as her daughter in law... They have been divorced 6 years and were only married 2. She would probably be happier if it were her kid... WTF?
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Wow, I don't blame you for being upset... your DH needs to set her straight.
And now you know... don't tell her anything else (like the gender, the name, etc.)
sorry girl, that's awful!! we are also trying to keep the secret but told immediate family. at thanksgiving we told them and specifically said don't tell ANYONE else. on our way out the door, she says , for everyone to hear, "thanks for sharing the news" WTF. good thing the extended IL's are so dense they didnt get it!!
I'm sorry about your ILs too. It's kind of nice to know I'm not alone.
I'm sorry about this. I know that as soon as I tell my immediate family, the entire world will know. Even if we ask them not to tell anyone, word will get out. That's the way my family is.
When my sister was pregnant with her first, she told our parents. Then I randomly called them before my sister had a chance to tell me. Merely by my mom's voice I knew my sister was pregnant. There was no mistaking the excitement in my mom's voice. That's why we aren't telling until we are ready for everyone to know!
Wow...what a bummer, that's really awful. I can understand when folks get excited and spill the beans to friends or family, but to post something on your facebook page? That seems to deliberate!?! I think you're completely justified in being upset and may want to have a serious talk with her (probably w/DH's help) about how hurt you were.
Who knows? Maybe this can even be an opportunity to clear the air a bit. Or it might just be a warning to keep your distance...
Either way, I'm sorry...
Oh dear! I would be so furious! She did steal that moment from you and you are totally right to be upset. When we told my MIL she said wanted to be the one to tell DH's whole family. I was like "are you kidding me!? this is our news!"
I'm so sorry she ruined your moment. If it were my MIL I wouldn't tell her anything else pregnancy-related. She would be the last to know. Seriously.
I don't really understand what makes MILs feel so entitled to do things. I can't believe she wanted to tell his whole family.