Why do people have to ask...

mopsie · November 2009

...if this pregnancy is planned? I'm a 27-year-old married professional, not a 13-year-old kid who got knocked up on the playground.

alheystek · November 2009

yeah, I don't like that either.

mrs.g_6708 · November 2009

Seriously, it's just effing rude. I DARE someone to ask me that Devil

Oriana.Ocampo · November 2009

yeah, some people have some big balls.. THE NERVE!!!!!

willowcormar · November 2009

Nobody has asked me yet...thus I have not gone to jail for hitting them. Smile

JalynSue · November 2009

Even though ours wasn't planned it still makes me mad when people ask. I wish they would just keep their mouths shut!

julieteve · November 2009

I know, it's like "why do you care anyway?".

BuckeyeWife07 · November 2009

haha! I with you!

It's even worse when they word it "Were you trying"

yes, we were having sex every day.. do you really want that picture?

DH's response to that is.. "well I'm always trying" haha...

jolynreed · November 2009

Our baby was planned, and I haven't been asked this yet, but...it's none of their business. Even if the baby wasn't planned, they are still going to be raised by parents who love them!

ToBeMcInerney · November 2009

I'm 23 but married and we own a house and we both have very good jobs and I get that question too. It's like just because I am young doesn't mean that I can't start a family... Like you said, I'm not 13

AnnaBanana0327 · November 2009

Yes

I told DH that people would start asking "Where you trying?" when we started telling friends and family since we didn't tell anyone we were TTC. He was like "No they won't. People don't ask guys stuff like that." Well, low and behold, the first time we went out and made our big announcement, people started asking him. LOL He couldn't believe it!

kerla · November 2009

This totally bugs me too! Why do they feel they have a right to ask such a personal question?

nicT42509 · November 2009

mopsie:
...if this pregnancy is planned? I'm a 27-year-old married professional, not a 13-year-old kid who got knocked up on the playground.

mopsie · November 2009

We told DH's cousins over the weekend and they put us on speakerphone so the whole family (aunt, uncle, 3 cousins) were all asking questions at once, and one of his girl cousins asked "how long were you trying for?"... DH was stunned into silence and just said "um, that's sort of an inappropriate question, don't you think?"... that shut her up!!!

sept0305bride · November 2009

My response if I EVER got this question:

1) Why do you want to know? Don't you think that's awfully personal? What would make you want to ask that?

or

A nice glare, and walk away leaving them to bask in their embarassment.

themrsC · November 2009

It's only the beginning of rude questions and unsolicited advice for the rest of your life as a parent, unfortunately. Wink

MrsAmyB · November 2009

You won't believe what people will end up asking you throughout your pregnancy.

When I was about 35 weeks with DD, a MAN asked me if I was going to breastfeed. I said, um, no, but that is a personal question. And he said "I dont see how its personal. Why not? Its best for your baby!" Almost throat punched him.

SWCLi · November 2009

They doctor actullay asked us if we are planning to keep the baby. Although we may look young in their eyes, we are old enough to start a family. Not to mention, my DH is turning 30 in 3 months and I am 25.

AshnBrendan · November 2009

People are rude and annoying. Me and my honey aren't married ( I refer to him as DH on the bump just cause its easier LOL) and every time we tell someone they say "So your getting married!?!" I'm like no.. We are pregnant. We will get married when we get married.. Just doin things a little backwards!! That is always there first question, followed by "is it planned" or "ohh how is Brendan handling it?" Like he is supposed to be completely horrified.

kaiteedidit · November 2009

I hate it when people ask that! It's so rude and uncomfortable. Why do you care?!

nnbarriere · November 2009

I have been asked this same question so many times at work...like how dare you!! I always respond by asking "Were you planned?" If they say YES, I ask WHY??!

georgia_peachy · November 2009

mopsie:
...if this pregnancy is planned? I'm a 27-year-old married professional, not a 13-year-old kid who got knocked up on the playground.

So rude! I hate it. My other fave is "You look like you might be carrying twins!" What is it about the statement "I'm pregnant" that suddenly means you can ask completely rude questions or insult me?

AKBride24 · November 2009

I know! Very irritating! Everyone who knows me at work or otherwise knows that I've been married for 3+ years...and they still ask!! If it wasn't planned I probably wouldn't be spreading the news!

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MermaidNM · November 2009

My favorite is that my pregnancy wasn't "planned" but we were in the preplanning stages (which mostly involved getting the husband a job and reading what to expect before you are expecting and buying a really cheap kate spade diaper bag.) When I tell people it was a surprise and not planned, they don't believe me. Granted we have only told family and close friends, so it doesn't seem like an intrusion when they want the juicy details. But for real, my husband just got his first paycheck today. No we weren't trying.

WifeyLindsay · November 2009

themrsC:
It's only the beginning of rude questions and unsolicited advice for the rest of your life as a parent, unfortunately.

LMAO!!! SOOOO true!

MrsD627 · November 2009

Ugh! DH's dumba$$ cousin asked us this right at the Thanksgiving table after we announced it. Yes it was planned, but is it really any of your business if it wasn't?? Moron.

MrsTallPaul · November 2009

This irritates me. Also - when my sister had twins, everyone felt the need to ask if they were "natural" or if they "had help". Who cares!

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Linds&Chris777 · November 2009

What's really p!ssing me off is people saying "again?? You know how to prevent that don't you??" I am a very happily married 26 year old woman, what on earth makes you think I would WANT to prevent it????!!! I'm just waiting for the next person to say it to me.

RivieraMaya05 · November 2009

themrsC:
It's only the beginning of rude questions and unsolicited advice for the rest of your life as a parent, unfortunately.

So true! Just wait until judgment is passed on every choice you make. Are you breastfeeding? Formula feeding? Will you have an epidural or natural labor? To circumcise or not circumcise? Co sleeper non cosleeper? SAHM or working mom? EVERYONE and I do mean everyone seems to have such strong opinions and stories of what worked for them and didn't work for them. Questions like that are just the beginning.

babya2010 · November 2009

MrsTallPaul:
This irritates me. Also - when my sister had twins, everyone felt the need to ask if they were "natural" or if they "had help". Who cares!

I'm just waiting on this response when we break our news...

southernbelle82 · November 2009

I had a couple of friends ask me this with this and my last pregnancy. My thought is always...what does it matter? It seems to me that the people who ask this are the ones without kids.

LovinLife10 · November 2009

Oh me too!! It bugs me!! Why do they need to know how long or if we were trying! We weren't trying (actually TTA for 1-2 more months) but it happened and we couldn't be happier but I don't think they should ask that!!! Oh well

Mrsalt027 · November 2009

I know, I have been surprised to have several people ask me that!

mrskilbride · November 2009

Those close to us know we have really been trying but random people of course think it is weird us to be trying for a baby at our age. Many of our friends have kids in middle school and even high school. I thought I was all done having babies, but never say never!

CarolEvans · November 2009

SWCLi:

They doctor actullay asked us if we are planning to keep the baby. Although we may look young in their eyes, we are old enough to start a family. Not to mention, my DH is turning 30 in 3 months and I am 25.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sept0305bride · November 2009

beccaga16:
SWCLi:

They doctor actullay asked us if we are planning to keep the baby. Although we may look young in their eyes, we are old enough to start a family. Not to mention, my DH is turning 30 in 3 months and I am 25.

I don't know the policy at your docs office or the tone he used but some offices require them to ask. At the hospital I work in they ask before they bust out a "Congrats!" to someone who is not planning on keeping the baby.

I guess its one thing with your doctor (because they need to know that you've quit drinking, smoking, are taking pre-natals, etc.) but I think its BS otherwise.

If any rational person got pregnant and was planning on NOT keeping the baby, why FFS would they make an announcement? You just go and get the abortion, right, and then try to move on?

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