J is in a hitting phase right now & I have no idea what to do for punishment, so I'm looking for some help.
This is what we are currently doing: if he hits someone who's holding him, then he gets told "no hitting" & gets put down (the child would be held all day if someone would do it, so this is a big punishment for him). Now he's gotten into hitting the dog & other stuff, like his toys. Obviously I don't want him hitting the dog, so I'll stop him, grab his hands firmly & sternly say "No hitting". I usually try to throw something in there about how hands are for loving or whatever. His toys I don't really care about, but I'm almost unsure if I should let him hit them or stop him b/c I'm not sure he'll understand the difference b/w what's OK & not OK to hit.
We don't mind popping his hands/leg for correction (not that we've really done that much yet), but I think it would definitely send the wrong message in this situation. Actually, this phase has made me totally rethink my view on spanking/popping. Ugh...any suggestions??