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1st Trimester
Just a little rant, sort of.
I posted here the other day about my pregnancy test having a faint second line. Well, I took another test and it came out positive again, so I'm going to believe that I am pregnant and due in August. 
I have a boyfriend and a daughter who will be 3-years-old in February. When I told him that I was pregnant, he simply told me that he wasn't ready for his own kid yet, that he'll never get to hang out with friends, he'll never get any sleep, etc. He told me that his life is ruined and that I should get an abortion, but I'm against that and so is my entire family. He mentioned adoption, but I don't want that either.
Yes, this new pregnancy has set my career back a little bit, but I see the positive in everything, so this doesn't not bother me at all. I will deal with whatever life hands to me.
I tried explaining to my boyfriend that everything will be okay and he said, "Well since you won't do abortion or adoption, then lets pray for a miscarriage."
Are you kidding me? I would never do such a thing.
I know this may sound completely ridiculous and there were ways to prevent this from happening, but I don't see anything wrong with this situation except for the fact that he needs to grow the heck up.
His and my family are excited, by the way.
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Re: Just a little rant, sort of.
Congrats to you on your pregnancy! I couldn't imagine having to go through that alone, but it sounds like you have a very supportive family.
ETA: That came off way to harsh, your boyfriend sounds immature, and I hope that he comes around and becomes more positive
Well at least you have the support of your family and his family even if he is being a total d-bag. If he wasn't ready for kids of his own, maybe he shouldn't be having sex.
Sorry...I'm hormonal and my sympathy train for immature people like that derailed a long time ago.
I hope for your sake he steps up to the plate and mans up.
BTW..l'm due in August also and congrats!!
I am sorry you are in this situation. If your boyfriend wasn't responsible enough to make sure he protected himself and you at all times what did he think was going to happen? I was raised by a single mom and had a wonderful childhood with great family on her side. I am not saying it will be easy but if you want you can raise the baby on your own it sounds like your family will be there for you. As for you boyfriend kick him to the curb he sounds like a complete loser.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, and that he's acting like a immature butthead.
Yes, he needs to grow the heck up...and he better do it fast; you'll need his support even before LO arrives. He damn well knew the consequences of sex when he decided to take a roll in the hay. So now he has to grow a pair and deal with one of those consequences. A LO is a gift; a gift many would die for!
And praying for a MC?! WTF?! A MC isn't quick, easy or painless...so basically he wants you to be in pain - emotionally and physically?? Wow. I'm sure he meant he just doesn't want the LO, but he should really consider his words more carefully.
The good news is that you have both families supporting you and your pregnancy, and you're in a great place emotionally.
I say a good punch to the throat may help!.
Wow. Just wow. That's really too bad that he's being so negative. I'm not sure I'd be able to stay with a "man" that acted like that and didn't take my feelings into consideration before speaking his own opinions. A baby is not something to speak of lightly, and he most likely will regret what he's said in the future. Like pp said, it takes two to tango, now he has to man-up and face the consequences of his actions. I can't believe he would say to pray for a miscarriage! That is just aweful and makes me sick.
Good luck. And I hope everything turns out well for you!
Thanks girls for your input! I've been told numerous times by my step-mom and even HIS family that I shouldn't be with him because of the way he is.
I'm a strong girl and I feel like I can deal with anything, so I guess I feel like I can deal with him and that's why I won't kick him to the curb? IDK. But if he keeps it up, he will be gone before our baby arrives because I am not going to let him stress the baby, my daughter, or me out.
I really appreciate all of you girls and your support!
I second this. Sounds like you should move on. But congrats to you! You sound like a very strong person. And of course we are always here for you too.
This. Good luck with everything - hopefully he comes around and gets used to the idea.
Congrats on your pregnancy!
I'm really glad your family and his family are both supportive. That's wonderful and you'll want and need it, I'm sure.
As for him, I think you should consider ending that relationship unless he has a MAJOR attitude and perspective change. I'm not normally one to judge or tell people what to do, but I've had a miscarriage, and that fact that he is wishing for one kind of sickens me.
I hope you have a healthy and happy 9 months, with or without him!
Your BF sounds like he is too immature to have children, in which case he should not be having unprotected sex. It also sounds like you recognize this about him. And I'm sorry, I have to question your decision to have unprotected sex with a man who you either (a) knew felt that way, or (b) hadn't had a conversation with in advance.
I see that you have another small child. Does your BF help out with her? Does he act like a father to her? If not, and he doesn't want children of his own to interfere with his youth, maybe you should re-evaluate your decision to be with him. Because if you stay with him, hoping he'll grow up, you might be missing out on finding a man who would actually be a father to your children.
1st- Congrats to you on your pregnancy and for having a healthy, supportive relationship with your family.
2nd- I might not know your boyfriend, but I am pretty sure he is a complete douche. ?I went through a m/c not long ago and it's not anything I would wish on my worst enemy, let alone someone I claim to love. ?He should be ashamed of himself for hoping that HIS baby dies. ?He is obviously a childish and selfish person and maybe raising this child on your own would be best for everyone.
?I wish you lots of luck and I hope everything works out for you and your children.?
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Take it from someone who knows...my mom "tricked" my dad into becoming pregnant. (Long story...but she went against his express wishes to wait until they were 30 and just went off birth control. They were 24.) I always knew he resented my brothers and I.
You are better off NOT having him in the kids life if he is going to continue to act this way. Really. Truly. Believe me.
I always wish my parents had split sooner so I could have had maybe a nice step-father in my life as a kid.