Still carrying the LO...

Clerk9 · November 2009

Ugh. I found out about our missed m/c on Thanksgiving. No real bleeding/spotting. My biggest sign was a feeling that something wasn't right. So we found out at the ER.

Tomorrow was supposed to be my first doctor's appointment for the LO, but now it's going to be to talk/do testing about our loss. I still haven't started bleeding, so I'm sure we'll have a D&C talk, too.

For those of you who've had this procedure, how quickly were they able to schedule it? Did anyone have one scheduled, then began to m/c naturally?

For right now, I'm kind of haunted by the fact that I know my baby is dead & yet s/he is still in here. Has anyone else had to deal with this?

I guess I'm just looking for anyone who's had a similar experience & has any thoughts to share.

Thank you, ladies, for being there.

jay-tea · November 2009

I had an ultrasound on a Thursday and found out there was no heartbeat, so the procedure was scheduled for Friday morning. I miscarried naturally that Thursday night. We still went ahead with the procedure to make sure everything was gone.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. :-(

goillini823 · November 2009

First I'm really sorry for your loss. We found out on Tuesday at our big u/s that baby no longer had a heartbeat. Due to the holiday weekend I have to wait til Tuesday to have my d&c. I feel your pain of walking around with a baby that is no longer alive in there. I dont know if it's kind of left me in denial of the whole situation at times during these last few days. I still feel very pregnant, I walk around with a belly as if I was pregnant, I still have my same pregnancy cravings, but the problem is that there isn't a live baby anymore, and at times I could put my life on the fact that I feel this baby kick inside me still.

A part of me can't wait until Tuesday to finally get this over with, and perhaps properly start grieving this loss, but at the same time I'm dreading for it to come because I know it really puts an end to this pregnancy, and I wont be coming home with a baby. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever gone through, and I dont know what I would do w/o this amazing board.

roxysurf99 · November 2009

I found out on a Friday I had a missed m/c and the D&C was scheduled for Monday. Now that I think of it, I am sure it could have been done earlier but I basically ran out of the office once finding out the bad news. The procedure was very quick and painless. I was able to walk out of the hospital within 2 hours on my own. Very little bleeding and no cramps. HTH, I am just sharing my experience.

Temp950106187509203 · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my thoughts and prayers. I don't have any answers/advice for you, but I wanted to give you my condolences. {{hugs}}

Lissa832 · November 2009

I've had two missed m/c. With my first, I was given Cytotec to induce it. The hardest part was going to the bathroom when I started to bleed because I knew I was flushing my baby away. It seems stupid, but it was devastating.

I had a d&c 3.5 weeks ago for this loss. I wasn't given any options the first time around, so I was pleased when my doctor let me choose what was best for me. I had my first u/s October 30, and my follow up November 6 to confirm. He took me to the OR that same day. I told him I wanted it to be over with as quickly as possible, and he respected that. I think he was so accommodating because it was my fourth m/c.

There are three options: Medication, wait it out, or d&c. It really depends on your doctor if you will be given all three options. With my first, I was told that I should wait it out (I wouldn't have anyway), that they wouldn't do a d&c unless medication didn't work. I was told that medication was the only way to go. The only option I was given was to take it that day or wait a day.

I'm sorry that you are going through this.

stellahav · November 2009

Similar to pp, I found out on Tuesday and D&C was scheduled for the following day. I m/c naturally that night, but still had the D&C. My only regret was not going to the ER as soon as I started bleeding heavily -- I ended up being rushing into surgery.

Even though I did m/c naturally, they did the D&C anyway just in case. It literally took 3 minutes. So if you do start m/c, don't hesitate to go to the hospital.

Best wishes and gl with the doctor. So sorry.

Clerk9 · November 2009

Thank you all for sharing your stories. Originally I was just going to take a few hours off work tomorrow, but now I think I'll take the whole afternoon off.

This may be a stupid question, but do they need to do general anesthesia for a D&C? (I'm just wondering because if it's the sort of thing where you need to be fasted, I know it's not going to happen tomorrow.)

Again, thank you for all of your candor & support. I'm really grateful.

MommaRed83 · November 2009

With my miscarriage last summer I went to the ER on a Thursday and found out that I was MC. On Friday I went to my dr (or the fill in since mine was on vaca). He wanted to do the D&C that day. I requested to try and MC naturally and schedule a D&C on Monday when my dr came back just in case I hadn't MC yet.

Friday-Saturday I naturally MC'ed but they decided on doing the surgery anyways.

So to answer your questions:

-They can schedule them fast. I would expect it within a day or two of the appointment. But mine let me choose.

-Yes I did naturally mc before the surgery but the dr opted to go through with it anyways because it is better to be safe than sorry.

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. The pain both physical and emotional is different for everyone so no one can truly know what you are going through and how you feel. But we understand.

You are in my thoughts. Please keep in touch and let us know that the doctor says tomorrow.

pepomntpat · November 2009

I am very sorry for your loss. {{hugs}}

I found out on a Tuesday and had my D&E on Wednesday morning. Everything happened so fast I didn't have time to think about anything. The baby had probably passed away about a week before and I had just some very minor brown spotting, no signs of m/c anytime soon.

JuJuBe3 · November 2009

First, I am very sorry for you loss. It's a terrible thing to go through. This board is a great place for support though.

I found out about our missed m/c on a Thursday, and chose the medication to force the m/c. I did that the next night, so I'd have the weekend to go through it. Then on Monday, had an u/s and found the meds didn't really work. They scheduled me for a D&C that same night.

It was a little eerie knowing my baby had been gone for a while and was still in there. It was a sticky baby, it's just too bad the hb stopped.

The D&C itself was rather easy - physically. They do put you under general anesthesia and I was told to rest for about 24 hours after. I took a couple days off, but physically probably only needed one day after surgery.

carebear08 · November 2009

For our first m/c I had a D&C. It was scheduled a little over a week after m/c was confirmed. I think this was really long compared to most. I wanted it to be scheduled sooner - but there was a misunderstanding. I also had a hard time carrying around something that wasn't living and it made me very upset. I also lived in a constant state of fear that I would naturally m/c at any time, which never happened. The D&C was very easy for me, almost no bleeding and very little cramping.

I'm sorry for your loss.

redstars93 · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss

I found out on a Wed and had my d&c that Sat. The procedure was relatively quick & painless and I was home within a couple of hours.

Honestly, the hardest part was 2 weeks later when my hormones crashed.

BIG {{{hugs}}}

jennsadye1979 · November 2009

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss.

I found out on a Thursday, and my D&C was scheduled for the following Monday. I did start spotting late Friday, and then I actually ended up miscarrying naturally on Sunday. I was in a public place (hair salon), so I do reccommend relaxing at home until your D&C, as if you can avoid going through that trauma in a public washroom, it's worth it. I ended up still having the D&C the next day as they wanted to make sure everything was out.

If I could skip the Sunday and go straight to the D&C I would, although going through the physical pain did make the D&C procedure a breeze compared to the day before. I hope this helps, and I hope you get a speedy appointment.

JenB7 · November 2009

I know exactly how you feel! I did ivf so I was getting bw checked about every 3 days. They called me on a Monday and told me my hcg wasn't rising as much as they would like and I needed to come in for u/s Thurs. Those were the longest 3 days of my life! U/S confirmed no hb. RE told me to come back in a week for repeat u/s. Again, VERY LONG WEEK! Next Thurs. still no HB. RE told me to call in a week if no sxs. My HCG was still rising, but RE said that was just my placenta making HCG not LO. Still had all my prego sxs at this point. Wouldn't have known anything was wrong if I hadn't been checked. No cramping, spotting, etc. I called RE the following Monday and scheduled D&C for Thurs. I had to walk around for two weeks knowing LO was gone, but still inside me. It was heartbreaking. I felt like I had failed my baby somehow. The worst was expecting to m/c at any time and not knowing when it would happen. Plus the denial that maybe they were wrong and LO was still alive.

When I went in for D&C I still had so sxs. LO was gone for 2-2&1/2 weeks at this point. D&C was very fast and uneventful. I was glad to have some closure and be able to start the healing process. Plus my RE was able to send the tissue for analysis so that maybe DH and I can get an answer as to what went wrong. I would choose the same option again, but sure hope I never have to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sonadora · November 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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