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I hate to be the 2nd SIL post today...NGPR (long)

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Okay I need to vent my frustrations about my SIL, because it is driving me crazy!

My DH's sister and her husband travel every Christmas.  They are both teachers and this works out really well for them.  Due to this we schedule what is fondly referred to as "Fake Christmas" and it is usually the Sunday before Christmas.  The family had decided on 12/20 for this years Fake Christmas several weeks ago. 

We were over at MIL and FIL's house for Thanksgiving yesterday (yeah we arent real great with having holidays on the holiday) and everything is fine.  Dinner went well, and my husband, myself and his youngest sister left to go to a bowling party.  When we return MIL states that after we had left SIL dropped the bomb that they were going to be leaving for vacation on the 18th and that we would have to reschedule Fake Christmas.  The in-laws arent terrible happy with her about this, especially the other sisters who dont like not having Christmas on Christmas morning  already. They started mentioning dates that would work, but they don't work for DH and I and no one has even asked BIL and new wife.  We also have NO idea when they are returning from vacation, so that makes it really hard to determine when everything might work out. 

To top this off, DH and I were talking last night about this and he says "I think you are too upset about this."  He's right I probably am, but this is the SIL that the world seems to revolve around.  I kind of think that this situation kind of proves that idea.

 Thanks for listening.

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  • chickpea912chickpea912 member
    Ugh... isn't family drama a ton of fun!  Just try to roll with this one - let your ILs deal with it and try not to let it get you down too much.  Definitely sounds frustrating, though!
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  • scootterbugscootterbug member
    Sound like they are being a little selfish! Your family should have real Christmas on Christmas and have a fake Christmas get together for the family members who have other plans for the holiday. Why should the whole family rearrange there plans, I'd just have two.
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  • locashlocash

    Ugh, scheduling holidays is the worst. I hope you guys can find something that works. Why did they schedule their vacation like that? It sounds like the date had already been established - maybe no one had told them so they went ahead and scheduled their trip?

    Try not to let it ruin the holiday. Maybe the family that is still in town can still get together Christmas day for an informal dinner.

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  • LadyXaverianLadyXaverian member
    That sucks. My DH's family usually has a larger family get together (like a 'fake Christmas' I guess, but they call it the P**** Family Christmas), and they do their best to schedule it on a day when everyone can make it, but if someone can't, oh well. I hope your IL's will say, "Have a nice vacation. We will miss you at Christmas." But that's just me. I'm a biitch that way lol!
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  • LilacStar11LilacStar11 member

    Aren't SIL's the worst.  Sorry yours is putting you through this.  It would bother me for sure.  It would bother DH as well and he probably would have said something like"Let's have our own Christmas and when it is convenient for BIL and SIL to have one, they can host their own" or something like that. 

    GL and I hope you have a nice Holiday-whenever it may be!

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    I completely understand how you feel. As hard as it may be, try to remember that there is nothing you can do about this one.


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  • renafaithrenafaith member
    isn't it funny how every family has that one member that everything has to revolve around?

    You're right...it's not funny. It sounds like they're being extremely selfish. If it were my family, they would just have to not have Christmas and go on vacation.
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    Hmmm..it sounds like we have the same SIL! Selfish and the world does not go on unless it's according to her scheudule! I say let the IL's deal with this one! I try to ignore my SIL as much as possible...do not let her get the best of you!Smile
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  • pisces4410pisces4410
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    Aren't SIL's the worst.  Sorry yours is putting you through this.  It would bother me for sure.  It would bother DH as well and he probably would have said something like"Let's have our own Christmas and when it is convenient for BIL and SIL to have one, they can host their own" or something like that. 

    GL and I hope you have a nice Holiday-whenever it may be!

     I would love if someone would say that to them.  They live in this pristene white house, white carpets, no colored paint.  SIL's dog lives with my MIL and FIL because he has black fur and sheds.  To top off the no black dog thing, they went out this summer and got a greyhound.  poor chase (the black lab who is a sweetie)

    Thanks everyone for all of the words of support!  I knew I could vent to you safely.

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  • pinkflipflops44pinkflipflops44 member

    Sounds like my SIL.  It has now gotten to the point where we always have xmas on the same time with DH's fam.  If it has not been changed or asked of us to change by Thanksgiving, we "have plans."  Thanksgiving might sound like a long time change.  But hello, you KNOW what you are doing for Christmas by then.  And we already celebrate Christmas with my family on set times that NEVER change.  And when we have to drive around the state in sometimes crappy weather because SIL won't just speak up to her dang husband, I draw the line.  No more changes.  However, if the change is anything after the 26th, I'm fine with that.  But it's the last minute changes that have happened EVERY year since she got married that DH and I will no longer put up with. 

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  • PinkLove-SPinkLove-S
    Ooh, that would piss me off too. I'm sorry! I have a ton of family drama too... Hope this all works out!
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