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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
lindsay.lou
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Lessons my miscarriage taught me.
lindsay.lou
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(Most of these I should've known)
1. Don't temp after BFP. When I started spotting I decided to check my waking temps the next couple days. They stayed high and gave NO indication that a m/c was coming.
2. Don't take HPTs after your first BFP. (Again, after I started spotting) I decided to ease my mind by taking leftover cheapie HPTs. They stayed super dark + and gave no indication a m/c was coming.
3. The ER CAN do something for you. My OB said the ER "can't do much for you" if you're miscarrying (and I read that online from quite a few sources as well). However, my experience in the ER was great. The doctor (TMI WARNING) removed the fetus, sac, & placenta from my "upper vaginal canal", which was good so I didn't have to see it. She also examined it in another room to ensure it was intact (which was something I wouldn't have been able to do, but gave me a lot of piece of mind that it was all out). They also prescribed me vicodin for my awful cramps. They also gave me IV fluids because I was very dehydrated but couldn't keep any water down.So don't ever think the ER "can't do anything for you."
4. I have an awesome DH (but I already knew that).
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Re: Lessons my miscarriage taught me.
These are good lessons! I would like to add:
1. I have an awesome DH and my family is amazing as well!
2. Don't be afraid to ask questions, chances are someone you know will have answers - or someone on this board will!
So sorry for your loss.
My lessons.....
1) Life doesn't go as planned. Things that I thought only happen to other people can happen to me.
2) I am so much stronger than I ever thought I was, and so is my DH.
3) It's ok to cry & be angry at the universe, but I also have to remember that I have a beautiful life to live in spite of this tragedy.
4) I will get pregnant again someday, but I will never forget the one we lost. This baby will always be a part of our family.
5) Let others help & lean on them when you need them most.
I could have written most of these myself. It's comforting to know that the ladies on this board understand so well what life is like right now.
The only thing I can add is that it's okay to talk about it. It doesn't matter if my friends, family, and even DH can't completely understand. But, I've realized that they'll listen, and they don't freak out when I mention "when I was pregnant", and they acknowledge that I need to talk about it, or mention it sometimes because it was real, and it happened, and it's forever a part of who I am, and a part of our marriage history--and it's helping me begin to move on. (I don't mean I constantly dwell or talk about it all the time, I just mean if it comes up, it's okay.)
oh, and ditto on the fact that my DH is amazing too, I couldn't make it through any of this without him to lean on.
YES YES YES
OOOH i thought of another BIG one....
DON'T EAT FOR TWO UNTIL YOU'RE SURE THE OTHER ONE IS GOING TO STICK AROUND !!!!!!!!!!!
I admit, I started eating for two from the moment I saw 'pregnant' on that digital. Now I'm babyless AND 7 lbs heavier. FAIL.