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Dealing with a miscarriage over the holidays
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I had a natural miscarriage on 11/7 @ 10 weeks. I am very private but my husband really wanted to tell everyone right away that we were expecting. I have had a history of ovarian issues but we went ahead with sharing the news with close family. My husband made the call to the family that we lost the baby and made it clear that I didn't want to talk about it.
Now with the holidays I am really struggling with family. It seems like everyone is talking about kids and babies. Especially those that knew we were pregnant. I haven't really talked to anyone about what happened and don't really care to but it has been really hard to hear about others in the family. The pity eyes are killing me and it has just made me angry to be with family.
Anyone have any suggestions with how to deal with family during this time?
Thank you to everyone on the board. The support you have already given me has
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Re: Dealing with a miscarriage over the holidays
I am sorry for your loss. I am glad that you have found some support here and continue to find the support you need.
I had a lot of the "baby" talk this last Thanksgiving and I endured it. I mostly withdrew some after the sad eye look and not keeping more than a shallow conversation with me. Someone here said to me (after a long vent about a poor turkey day) that they are trying to avoid saying something hurtful.
I luckily brought my ipod touch and bumped on the MIL's wi-fi
I suggest bringing things for you to do if you think people are going to be quiet around you. If people will be active around you, then maybe bring "adult" games like Apples to Apples or Quelf (a personal favorite). That way there is minimal "baby" talk and fun interaction with the family.
Good luck finding what you need to be able to interact with people in real life, I am still trying to find my niche. I still got tear-y eyed at the restaurant tonight when there was a prego waitress and little toddler running around.