I almost wish I didn't know

MrsTechie · November 2009

Yep, that's right. Me, the OCD researcher and planner wishes she didn't know something.

DH and I just reached the agreement to try for a baby. It's been on the radar but not necessary to dig too far into the facts before. Now, with BC fading from my system and many hours invested in reading and re-reading, I almost wish I didn't know that TTC can be really challenging.

As a child and young adult I just thought that when you tried, it worked. That's why you use condoms and BC. And when you don't- bam! you get a baby! Confused Riiiggghhttt.

So now I know that it can take a lot of work and effort. (Or not). And that I can have sex every day for 3 months straight and my body will decide when it feels like getting KU.

I'm a little stressed out about how very disappointed we could end up being. (Or not).

I have major respect for all you ladies that have being dealing with TTC for long periods of time!

Lemmen · November 2009

It definitely can be overwhelming to realize that conceiving is a lot more difficult than they taught us in high school sex ed, but I think knowledge is a good thing. Hang in there and have fun!

katiengarrett · November 2009

I had a conversation about this very thing today with a lady I work with. It's all kind of cruel and ironic. I spent so many years swallowing a pill that may have done more harm than good, and now come to find out, it's not as easy to get pregnant as we all wish it were.

kbeach82 · November 2009

I can definitely sympathasize with the OCD-ness. When I set my sights on something, I generally find myself completely consumed by it. I research things to death and TTC has been no different. This cycle, I've continued charting with FF, but have made a conscious effort to limit the amount of time I spend staring at my chart or researching TTC. While I definitely like to be informed and educated when it comes to my body, I have come to terms with the fact that it may take a while to conceive and I know that no amount of research or stalking my own chart will change that fact. I hope you are able to have fun trying and wish you the best!

***WaitingforBaby*** · November 2009

I know the feeling completely. It's like us the women who spend countless hours and time learning and researching have such a hard getting something we really want. It seems to me the ones who don't even have to try just do.

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amh_81 · November 2009

kbeach82:
I can definitely sympathasize with the OCD-ness. When I set my sights on something, I generally find myself completely consumed by it. I research things to death and TTC has been no different.

You sound like me -- type A all the way. DH and I have not started TTC but will in the next month or two, but I'm doing research, reading online (hence my post here) and I know it won't be too long before I'm completely consumed by it.

hello_im_tash · November 2009

I couldn't have said it better myself! I thought we would just decide to have a baby and we would have one! After years of watching my mom and her friends and my aunts all have babies without much fuss I just assumed it would be the same for me and then I started doing research and discovered it can be a lot harder then everyone makes it seem! I just wish I had never started taking the BCP. I was only 14 when I went on and now I am 26. That is a REALLY longtime to be putting those in your system, I am not trying to blame the pills but I just think they messed with my system a little.