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itsmyangelitsmyangel member
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we decided to go the ivf route first...however there is a possible situation that would be an adoption without an agency. Basically there is a lady at a coworkers church that is raising her daughters oldest (3 year old) the mother of the baby aslo has a 4-6 month old baby that she is now unable to care for .  She is mentally slow and wanted to raise this child on her own but according to the babysitter its not working out and she is going to callchildrens services.  The grandmother cannot take another child and went to the pastor's wife and explained that she would rather find a family to adopt the baby instead of it going to foster care.  She is going to try to talk her dtr into going this route.  My coworker asked me if we'd still be interested (of course we are) so she will be speaking with the pastor or the grandmother tomorrow at church.  wish us luck!  I havce no clue how to proceed if she does decide to go through with this
1 chemical and 1 loss at 9 weeks prior to DS
IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010

Trying for # 2 since 2012.  2 failed FETS 1 failed IUI.
IUI#2 4/14/14-- BFP !!!!! Beta #1 14dpiui= 45 Beta #2 16dpiui= 80  Beta #3 18dpiui= 88 (chemical pregnancy)
March 2015- Chemical pg

1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!
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  • PrincessShay80PrincessShay80

    I dont have any advice on how to move forward- I think the best thing to do is get the most information and make the best decision for your family. I would be all over that situation! I just wanted to wish you luck, I will keep my fingers crossed for you- this could be your Christmas miracle!

    Keep us posted!

    Our Journey from two to three! 3 IUI's, 2 IVF's, decided to move to foster/adopt. 12/24/2009 Baby C born, 2/1/2010 placed with us, 5/17/2011 Adoption final- we are finally a forever family! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • itsmyangelitsmyangel member
    I will...i'm all over it if it works out...i just don't know how to go foward with the independant thing.if you have to have homestudy etc i guess we'll wait to see waht th mom wants to do and then if she does want to go with us we'll contact an attourney and work itout
    1 chemical and 1 loss at 9 weeks prior to DS
    IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010

    Trying for # 2 since 2012.  2 failed FETS 1 failed IUI.
    IUI#2 4/14/14-- BFP !!!!! Beta #1 14dpiui= 45 Beta #2 16dpiui= 80  Beta #3 18dpiui= 88 (chemical pregnancy)
    March 2015- Chemical pg

    1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

    Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!
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  • lisanjaylisanjay

    Best wishes!

    If it does go forward I am pretty sure each state requires a homestudy for adoption. Some states don't if it is familial. You would need an attorney and possibly an ad litem for the infant. If the bmom is under 18 she might need one too. Some states require counseling to be offered too. Your attorney will know all the requirements.

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  • HElizabethDUHElizabethDU
    Good luck, I hope things can work out.  I would imagine you would want to read up on your state's adoption laws.  For example in Colorado we are an agency state, so I believe that we have to go through an agency or attorney to finalize an adoption, at least that is what I have been told, and I think that a homestudy is required no matter if it is private or not.  
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