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It's official... my MIL is crazy

andrea zandrea z
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Ugh... I really, really, really dislike her.  When Ethan was in the NICU and Jacob had passed away, she didn't even want to come to the hospital.... When my mom called and told her that her son needed support, she finally showed... and told us how much she disliked the name Ethan. Seriously she is worthless.

  When we lost the boys, my parents did A LOT for us.  My mom pretty much planned the funeral (we live in another state).  My mom also talked to the headstone company and had them draw up the headstone for us.... so we didn't have to deal with them a lot.  My parents planned a trip to Vegas for us, and called every day to make sure we were ok for the first few weeks.  His parents left the hospital the night Ethan died, and we did not hear from them until the day before the funeral.  My mom asked them if they wanted her to order a flower arrangement for the funeral from them... and they said no (they don't have money problems).   So, after all my parents did for us... we got them a nice TV for Christmas (their old one was VERY old).  They had been wanting one, but just had not gone to get one.  Because we bought it on black Friday, we had to give it to them while we were in town for Thanksgiving (we couldnt fit everything in the car).  DH's mother found out that we had given them a TV, and she threw a fit.  She said that DH was ungrateful and obviously does not love her.  DH explained that we had no where to put it, so we had to give it to them early.  He told her that they had done a lot for us, and that MIL would get a present at Christmas time.  She then said that she wanted to kill herself because he obviously does not love her.  She then posted on FB that the only thing in the world that loves her is her dog.... and that DH acts like she is an after thought. After getting the boys insurance check on Wed, an emotional Thanksgiving, and then her horrible behavior... it seems like she would have been trying to make things easier for us.   I am so over her and her BS.  I don't even care anymore.  I feel so bad for DH though.  He is angry, but you can tell he is just so hurt by his psycho mother.  Why cant she just pretend to be normal for one holiday???

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  • shall923shall923 member
    So sorry that sounds just terrible. How can people be so selfish.
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  • californiastarscaliforniastars member
    Oh hon I am sorry she is such a biitch. (((HUGS)))
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  • travers081906travers081906
    UMMMMMmmmm WOW!!! Are you sure were not related in some way?!! My DH mom is just like that!!! Everything is our fault no matter is we try and help her out or not! Even if she asks for help and we help, its our fault! Ughh... She used to tell DH that he didn't love her anymore and that he might as well not have a mom. Blah, blah, blah... Needless to say last yr around Christmas DH and I were having issues and almost split. His mom was excited and called me every name in the book, I never did anything mean to her! Well when she found out we were getting back together she flipped and started blaming things on DH, that he never did... We havent talked to her since Big Smile  Life is so much less stressful!!!!
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  • kshields104kshields104
    I am so sorry you are going through this.  Hugs to you.  I feel so bad for your DH. 
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  • far_more_than_rubiesfar_more_than_rubies

    Oh honey............

    I am so sorry that she acted like that.  Seriously, FACEBOOK?  I think you should not be able to have an account if you are a MIL:)

    However, how incredibly sweet of you guys to get your parents a TV.  They sound like incredible people.

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  • andrea zandrea z

    imagetravers081906:
    UMMMMMmmmm WOW!!! Are you sure were not related in some way?!! My DH mom is just like that!!! Everything is our fault no matter is we try and help her out or not! Even if she asks for help and we help, its our fault! Ughh... She used to tell DH that he didn't love her anymore and that he might as well not have a mom. Blah, blah, blah... Needless to say last yr around Christmas DH and I were having issues and almost split. His mom was excited and called me every name in the book, I never did anything mean to her! Well when she found out we were getting back together she flipped and started blaming things on DH, that he never did... We havent talked to her since Big Smile  Life is so much less stressful!!!!

     

    High five on the crazy MIL club. 

    It is like dealing with a child.... all the time.  DH pretty much hates her as it is, but puts up with her for FIL (who is actually ok most of the time).  He called FIL tonight and told him that we are done with her.  We have been through enough this year.... her craziness is getting old.  I am just not use to dealing with stuff like this from an adult, so it just shocks me.   

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  • maritzburggirlmaritzburggirl
    I am so sorry that you have to deal with a juvenile adult in addition to everything else...this just makes me grateful for my inlaws....sending hugs your way.
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  • daphne814daphne814 member
    That is terrible!  She sounds like a world class b!tch!  I'm so sorry you and your dh are having to deal with her.  As if you haven't already dealt with enough!  Who the heck does she think she is??  I have 8 year old students who act more mature than she does.

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  • TatstarTatstar

    OMG.  I hate emotionally abusive people.  Reading that just makes me so angry.  I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that, especially with everything else you are dealing with. 

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  • CAB'smommyCAB'smommy

    imagetravers081906:
    UMMMMMmmmm WOW!!! Are you sure were not related in some way?!! My DH mom is just like that!!! 

    My MIL too!  It's called major depression not medicated correctly!  My MIL went on some new med and she's been better.  But before that she was a monster.  Lets just say that when my DH was a boy, he got told he was going to burn in hell so much that he decided to become a priest in his teens.  :o)  Then he met me and the rest is history! 

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