Vent: happy and sad!

kmwiegand · November 2009

I guess I would call this a vent. Testing would have been Wed or Thurs (I always try to wait until after AF is due), but AF came on Tues. So I was very sad for a few days (we have wanted to be KU for the past year, but my cycle just kicked into gear in Aug after comming off Depo). But, T-Day and Black Friday were so busy that it took my mind off everything. Then I had come to terms with it. Today we had my family T Day at my Brother's and he and SIL announced that they were expecting their second! (they had their son wear a shirt that he was going to be a big brother). I am so very happy for them, but it made me very sad at the same time - I was sooo hoping to have an announcement of my own. I wish her a Happy and Healthy 9 months, but I REALLY want MY BFP!

scherpha · November 2009

I am glad for your sister and your productive weekend. I know a little how you feel. I have not been TTC as long, but I definitely know the feeling of others being KU before me. I wish you the best!

LnR70707 · November 2009

I feel your pain all too well. My last depo shot was Dec. 07 and my first anovulatory cyle was Oct. 08. If you aren't already, I highly recommend charting your basal temp. It was a lifesaver for me since I didn't even ovulate until Feb. 09. GL!

JAllen32 · November 2009

::squeezes in::

I'm in the same boat with you guys. We've been trying for over a year now, and so far my SIL got ku with, and given birth to, #4. 10 years after her hubby had a vasectomy. My old babysitter for dd is due in January, she's and daddy are 16. And my little brother's gf had a m/c in August and apparently go ku again immediatley after because she is now like 8 weeks along. Completely unplanned, and originally unwanted. Great. My last cycle I was supposed to test on a tuesday, but monday AF showed up plus I was on my deathbed with a cold. While I was driving home from work feeling especially sorry for myself my brother and his gf call me to make the announcement. So I had to choke back the hysterical tears and assure them that I was soooo happy for them. Then proceed to breakdown as soon as I hung up. And when I tried to secure a hug and some sympathy from my hubby I got "why are you sad? Isn't it a happy thing?" AAAAACK!!! Really? You sooooo don't get it!!!

kbeach82 · November 2009

It can be very difficult to be happy for others who are lucky enough to become pregnanct when you haven't yet had any luck. My much younger sister is due any day now, and I have struggled with my own emotions about the situation for many months now. I know I will be a proud aunt when the little one makes her way into the world, and I would like to think that in due time we will all find happiness one way or another. I wish you the best of luck in your TTC journey.

kmwiegand · November 2009

Thanks everyone! I am happy for them, just sad for me. My DH was soo sweet coming over to me and trying to be supportive - I made him stop cause I was near tears, and if he kept it up, I would break down in front of everyone. I didn't realize how much it affected him till we were in the car on the way home and we were talking about it and he said he never felt so happy for someone, yet so sad at the same time. And he started crying! Now I feel bad for the both of us. We were hoping for a BFP this month so we could have a Christmas announcement, but if Dec is our month, we may have to make an early announcement (I would only be 4 wks at Christmas - I can test around the 21).

***WaitingforBaby*** · November 2009

I know the feeling. I thought I was PG this month and the I had a BFN and my bestest called me to say she was PG with their second. It was like a knife in the heart. She always complained that she wasn't getting PG and they were only trying for a few months. Then when I told her I was trying it was like she didn't even care.It really hurt me. I am happy for her but at the same time it kinda hurts.

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