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I'm tired of the disapointment
I know that it takes time to get pregnant, but we have been trying since August. Every month I think "this is it, I feel like I am pregnant, I have all of the symtoms" and then I find out that I am not. It's disapointing and a total let down. We are doing everything right, but I think something might be wrong. I have 2 kids of my own, but they are not my husbands. He does not have any kids of his own.
~Jessica~
"Life isn't measured by the number of breaths you take, but by the number of moments that take your breath away" ~Uknown
"You don't marry the person you can live with...you marry the person you can't live without." ~Uknown
An angel opened the book of life and wrote down my baby's birth, Then she whispered as she closed the book, "Too beautiful for earth." ~Unknown We lost our "Squishy" to a m/c on 10/06/2010. He/she went to heaven with my Dad and our Heavenly Father.
An angel opened the book of life and wrote down my baby's birth, Then she whispered as she closed the book, "Too beautiful for earth." ~Unknown We lost our "Squishy" to a m/c on 10/06/2010. He/she went to heaven with my Dad and our Heavenly Father.
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Re: I'm tired of the disapointment
This.
I'm in a similar boat. I have a son from my first marriage and now my new DH & I are trying for a baby. I am finishing up my 3rd cycle right now and got a BFN this morning. I think my expectations were a little bit unrealistic. With my first DH I got PG on the pill (that ended in a miscarriage) and then a few months later got PG the first cycle trying. Knowing that I have gotten PG very easily 2 times, it makes me think that chances are my body is working the way it is supposed to. My DH doesn't have any children, therefore we are not sure if everything with him is ok, we are just assuming it is. I think somewhere in my head I just assumed I'd getting PG easily again. Silly me.
I try to remember a few things. 1. Even if you time it perfectly, you only have a 20% chance every month of conceiving. 2. There are so many couples that have struggled for months and even years. 3. I'm blessed to even have 1 child, when so many people don't. 4. My body is different 5 years later. I'm older and I've gained weight, so either of those things could be a contributing factor.
At this point all you can do is keep timing it, charting, temping, etc and hope for the best. If by next summer you still haven't conceived, then it is probably time to call the Dr. (maybe call sooner if you really think something is wrong.)
Good Luck.
It took us 9 months! We are proof it happens! I too was disappointed every month. It does happen
I'm on cycle 17. We started trying just about LAST August. Trust me, I understand the disappointment.
Plus, just because you had two children easily doesn't necessarily mean a 3rd will come just as easy. Friends of ours have 2 kids and basically both of them were born when our friends wanted them to be. They're the type that can literally look at each other and get pregnant. Well, they've been trying for a 3rd since summer and so far nothing.
Keep trying a few more months and like pp said, if you feel there could be an issue with DH talk to your doctor and see what they recommend the next step be.
DX: High FSH/DOR
It took 44 cycles, just over 3 years, 6 failed IUI's in MI, and 1 round of IVF at CCRM to get our BFP!
Beta #1 (9dp5dt) = 206, Beta #2 (11dp5dt) = 438
1st u/s @ 6w5d = 11/11/11 = ONE little bean! HB 120bpm!
?Our Baby Boy Born June 26th, 2012?
This. You haven't been trying for very long, so don't panic yet. But, I had some concerns about my DH fairly early on as well (we had only been trying for 4-5 months), so I had him do a semen analysis. It was covered by insurance and very easy. It showed some abnormalities that we have started to correct much sooner than we would have had we waited. If you are super worried, talk to your husband about doing one. In the meantime, chart your cycles and have fun trying.
Good luck!!
I'm sorry, but as the others have said, three months is not a long time at all. I'm not saying the disappointment isn't there, because I'm sure it is. I'm just saying to learn some patience and don't immediately assume things are "wrong" with your husband or otherwise.
This!!!!
This.
I'm on cycle 15, ttc since Sept. '08. I know it's disappointing, but don't stress yet, it's only been 3 months.