Am I being hormonal or would your feelings be hurt too..

jenna0627 · November 2009

Every Christmas we go together with SIL/BIL (DH's sister and her husband) to buy my in-laws a really nice present, camera tv etc. About a month ago we were both going to think about ideas. I called her last night and she said, oh I went ahead and got them things from just us. I got a golf towel with a pic of their DD for dad and a calendar of DD for mom. Um...Ok. This is the first Christmas for both grandkids (they also are the only grandkids) I think it would be nice to have both kids in the calendar Huh?

. I guess it just hurts my feelings bc she always tries to make everything a competition. She recently found out that she was pregnant again (DD is 9 months) and told everyone right after Trent was born and said...."Looks like I get to be the one with the newest baby again." Tongue Tied

DH was also kind of hurt since she didn't want to do a nice pic of both kids together. Am I being hormonal or would your feelings be hurt.

anakin · November 2009

I think it would have been nice if she had discussed it with you first, especially since you had all discussed getting a big gift together not that long ago. But I don't think that getting things with pictures of just there kids was inappropriate.

This year I am getting picture calendars for several members of my family, and am only including my kids. If you want to have something done up with pics of your DD then you should, just try not to do a calendar or golf towel.

As far as the whole "I'll have the newest baby" thing. That does show that she is being tacky and competitive. Best to just ignore it, as I don't think she'll change anytime soon.

rebeccaontherocks · November 2009

Since I only have on sibling and he has two kids. If he and my SIL left my baby out of something like that my feelings would be hurt too.

If it was a bigger family and something more difficult to coordinate with lots of different kids from different siblings, I would understand one family doing their own thing.

jenna0627 · November 2009

rebeccaontherocks:

Since I only have on sibling and he has two kids. If he and my SIL left my baby out of something like that my feelings would be hurt too.

If it was a bigger family and something more difficult to coordinate with lots of different kids from different siblings, I would understand one family doing their own thing.

I think thats why my feelings were hurt. It's just DH and his sister and now the two grandkids.