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One benefit of crying = "CIA"

moroccojademoroccojade member
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Or "crying in arms".

I linked this excellent article a little while back within a couple of posts. Thought it might be worth putting it out there for everyone.

Although I think the 'exercising the lungs' thing is ridiculous, too...  I now do think that allowing your child to 'let it all out' if they want to can be beneficial in the right circumstances.  (Most of us even find a good bawl useful as adults!  Myself included.)  It can relieve a child's stress if it's done in a safe environment while you are offering them the type of comfort they need.

https://www.mothering.com/parenting/crying-for-comfort

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Re: One benefit of crying = "CIA"

  • Dobie_MamaDobie_Mama
    I tend to agree.  I find that, especially as a toddler, sometimes DD needs to cry.  If she's having a rough time & starting to tantrum, I'll say something like, "Hey - you're frustrated.  And that's OK!" while holding her or rubbing her back or something.  She ends up getting past her frustration really quickly this way ... whereas if I am constantly asking what's wrong, if she needs a drink, if she's hurt, etc. she tends to get overwhelmed and the tantrum escalates.
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  • hula_lulahula_lula

    Especially for an older child, I agree. For my 5 month old, maybe not so often but for toddlers, no question.

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  • ncbellencbelle member
    Makes sense to me.  I think it's the being left to cry alone thing that's bad.  After all, babies/toddler are going to cry since they lack the words to express frustration, sadness, fear, etc.


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  • alina*mariealina*marie
    I really like this article. It makes me feel better when crying is unavoidable- I was at a movie and SO texted me to come home because DS had been crying for 2 hrs. It was the first time they were left together for a good chunk of time, with SO trying to put him down for the night. I called as we were leaving the theater and told SO to just hold him while he's crying, and I'll be there soon. I felt awful but a little better knowing he was in arms and would be okay soon.
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  • mrstarawalshmrstarawalsh member
    I tend to agree. My son as an infant would have a "fussy" period at night between 6pm and 8pm. Sometimes he would just cry and cry unconsolably. So I did the only thing I could do: swaddled him and rocked him until he was calm. It seemed to be a good thing for him.
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