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Maybe I should be asking on 6-12, but I much prefer this board...
Ok, this is totally not ap related, but I'm really feeling down on myself and need to know that I am not the only one in the world who still has baby weight to lose! Every time I talk to a pregnant friend of mine the topic of losing the baby weight seems to come up. Somehow she has this idea that the weight just falls off with no effort. Somehow everyone she knows got back to their size 2 bodies within 3 months. Somehow no one she knows gets a single stretch mark. And it's pretty clear she expects it to be the same for her. I secretly hope it's not.
I still have 10 lbs. to lose at nearly 9 months post partum, and I got stretch marks (minor, but they're there nonetheless). I thought it was pretty common for it to take up to a year to get back to "normal", and for everyone that I know this is the case.
Please tell me I'm not living in some delusional world, and that there are others who did not look like supermodels at 3 months post partum!
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Re: Maybe I should be asking on 6-12, but I much prefer this board...
Far from it.
I think I'm the only woman who had gained weight after giving birth. After going back to work f/t and school p/t and PPD, taking care of myself is the one thing I could allow to fall by the wayside. I am slowly beginning to gain control in that part of my life and I know I will lose the weight eventually but it's simply not my priority at this moment. It took me a while to get there, but I'm okay with that.
Only 10 pounds to go at 9 months? You're doing great!
I was doing well at 3 weeks post partum. But then I was on megadoses of domperidone to get my supply up. And holy cats, did I ever gain weight. Nightmare. It made me so mad, and I stuffed chocolates in my face. And you know where that got me.
DD is now 2. I still have *20* pounds to go. At least. 25 or even 30 would be better. Shoot me now.
I think its normal, at least I hope it is.
I was at my absolute slimmest when we conceived. I promptly gained almost 50 pounds and now I still need to lose 15. I have no idea how to do it. I am constantly starving and everytime I get too much exercise I have trouble nursing. I always stayed fit by riding my bike everywhere, but there is no way I can get on a bike yet :} so I am lost.
ETA: Wait! I have a PIP! This is the day we found out we were pregnant and the week I delivered.
I may only be 5lbs over my prepregnancy weight, but my entire body changed. I managed to gain 60lbs in the last 18 weeks of my pregnancy. With that came stretch marks everywhere. It sucks and my belly is like jello now. My hips are in a different place after giving birth and my boobs are permanently one size bigger.
Your friend's friends just never wanted to scare her.
I have 25 to loose to get back to just before concieving but have about 50 to loose to be where I want to be before we try for baby #2.?
You're normal and I'm normal. Lets not stress, K??
My weight still fluctuates all over and I quit caring about the weight and size clothing I'm wearing. I hate all my stretchmarks and I have diastasis recti (separation of the abdominal wall) so my stomach is really funky. You are normal. This website I think is a great website to show what a real mother looks like after having a baby. It helped me feel more normal about what I see when I look in the mirror.
https://theshapeofamother.com/
I'm only seven weeks pp, but I totally hear you. I started WW (the nursing mom program) a week ago and it KILLED my milk supply. I had to quit after three days. I was so depressed about it because I was so looking forward to getting all this weight off. But I think it's going to be a very long time before I can do that.
Every time I get really depressed about it, I just look at Delilah and think about how it's such a relatively short amount of time in my life that I'll have to be a giant beast...and she is totally worth it. It's worth it for me knowing I can breastfeed her and she can be healthy. I'm still sad about it, but that little thought helps me deal a bit better with my weight depression.
All of my friends seem to be of the super skinny postpartum club. They all weigh less after having babies than they did before they got pregnant.
I'm 6.5m pp and still have 15 lbs to lose. Everytime I tried to diet or exercise, my already poor milk supply took a dive. I weaned a little over a month ago and I've started working out. I'm hoping to lose these last 15 lbs by the time T is 9 months old.
9 months to gain it, 9 months (or more) to lose it, right?
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I had to give up dairy when I was bfing. That's the only reason I was able to lose the weight faster. Cut out cheese from sandwiches and ice cream for dessert (in the summer none the less). It just cuts out a ton of calories. I was within 5 lbs of my pre-pg weight at 5 months pp, but then never lost any more than that.
I'm actually 10 lbs heavier at the start of this pg than I was with DD.
I think some women hold onto weight while bfing.
It's not the norm to lose all the weight within a couple months.
Oh, and I have bad stretch marks everywhere... legs, stomach, sides, everywhere. I'm really looking forward to what it will look like when my stretch marks stretch.
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Weight wise I am only 9 lbs from pre-PG weight, but my body is COMPLETELY different. My belly is now like an apron, so I have to wear a larger size of pant. My breasts are larger, droopier and I wear a bigger bra and also bigger shirt. I can no longer wear non-stretch tops because to accomodate my boobs and belly, it's too large in the shoulders and arms. The scale may say it's not too bad, but my body looks heavier than it is due to weight distribution.
The only thing that is thinner is my arms - lifting a baby, holding it to nurse when she's squirming, etc. really helps tone one's triceps!
Yesterday we had a party and I was miserable because I had nothing to wear so I wore a black sweater and black trousers. I went upstairs to nurse DD and my mom came up with me and she asked if my husband (a photographer) has taken any nude photos of me. I was like WTF but she said it wasn't that she was asking about our sex life or anything, but that she thought my body was so beautiful - that I am soft and feminine and maternal and the body is obviously meant for nursing and raising a child.
Every time I feel bad about my figure, I look at my thriving baby and feel better. And then DH tells me how sexy and beautiful I am and I stop worrying about the rest and focus on me. I don'[t have time to focus on hitting the gym every day, and I don't want to change my diet and affect my milk supply. I know I am healthy, and I know DD is healthy as well.
You are not alone, and I bet you look fantastic.
BTW I have a daily photo journal of what I wear every day. You can see where I was pre-PG, through my pregnancy, and now. Never have been a skinny person, and obviously not the same size I was two years ago. But the blog is great because I constantly hear from fellow moms who are shaped like me or like me haven't lost all the baby weight. It's reassuring. https://www.mywardrobetoday.com
Ugh, time to get some new friends! Kidding. But really, it's perfectly normal. My goal is to get back NEAR fighting weight before I get knocked up again, because I sure as hell don't want to add 15lbs for each pregnancy!
Also, I'm covered in stretch marks and I have the boobs of a 90 year old grandma. DS loves them, though
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thanks ladies. it was just one of those days, kwim?
I knew you'd pull me back into reality and get me lovin my amazing body again!
and mdjune - you're gorgeous!
i gained 60 pounds with my first and i'm on track to gain about the same with this one - oops! i dropped 30 pounds in 6 weeks and then hit a wall - i joined Weight Watchers and took off another 38 pounds - but it took me 8 months!!
this pregnancy i've gained somewhere around 35 pounds - i'm at 29 weeks today - in the beginning, i was completely obsessive about it - especially because i'm not eating any differently than i did before i was pregnant - in fact, i've probably been eating less!! my OB basically told me to get over it - she said i'm just one of those women that gains a lot and she's sure i'll take it all off - since then, i don't step on the scale unless i'm in her office!
hang in there mama - you're not the only one!