Does the fear every fade?

B-lineBride · November 2009

I had a freak out last night on my dh after being pretty crampy and became a crying blubbery mess b/c although I am SO thankful to be pregnant, I'm also so scared something is going to happen again. Every time I go the bathroom, I'm terrified I'm going to look down and see blood. I'm hoping the fear will subside once I see the heartbeat in a couple weeks, but it probably won't until I'm holding the healthy LO in my arms. Sorry for the vent, I just know that this is one place where I'm probably not alone in my fears - thanks for listening!

luvsbunny · November 2009

I don't know the answer but what I hear is that the fear is unfortunately always there.

All we can do is love our baby every day and pray/hope that we'll hold that baby in a few months..

Hugs

Lisa10e · November 2009

I'm still scared even after all my good u/s, an amino, and feeling him move. I dont think I'll feel better til hes here. Even though I feel him move everyday he'll still have quiet days and I get so nervous. I think its natural that once you've had a loss its always going to be in the back of your mind no matter what. I just have to keep telling myself to stay positive and things are going to be fine. All you can do is love your baby with everything you have and pray for the best. Worrying isnt going to do you or lo any good.

(ps, even at almost 24wks I'm still a tp checker!)

DrDPM · November 2009

I was still looking at the TP well into my 2nd tri. For me, the fear did ease a bit during 2nd tri, although it's come back a bit in 3rd tri. I'm in the home stretch, but I still worry. I think it's just normal after having a loss; and, as a mom of two already, the worrying continues even after they're born.

AMG06 · November 2009

I have good days where the anxiety fades but most of the time I'm still checking my undies for spotting and wondering where my symptoms went if they leave for awhile. I just try to take it day by day as best as I can.

mrsandrews07 · November 2009

It seems there is always some sort of fear during pregnancy....just do your best to stay calm and relaxed...a whole new set of fears set in once the babe is here...it never ends

BUT...it is all worth it once they are in your arms!

baltobride06 · November 2009

I find it helps to know you're not alone - I am the same exact way - so scared to go the bathroom b/c what I might see. Of all the terrible feelings that came with having a m/c the worst is that it's taken away 100% joy for me with my 2nd pregnancy. But, I'm just trying to stay positive and keep telling myself "today I'm pregnant so be happy!"

kellieok · November 2009

I feel for you since I am in the same anxiety stage of the 1st trimester where yes i am constantly checking the tp. Had an ealry ultrasound this past monday and saw a heartbeat then on wednesday freaked out because there was some red with the brown on the tp called the dr and she said not to panic but it still isn't comforting. Sometimes even the symptoms of being pregnant aren't there and i freak out. Keep us updated with the ultrasound though!!

B-lineBride · November 2009

Thanks to you all ladies - it's comforting to know I'm not alone or crazy in my fear! Here's to a H&H pregnancy for us all.

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