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malcivar
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Why does everyone have an opinion on what's best for MY baby? (vent)
malcivar
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So MIL & DH are bent on us going to VT for Christmas. That's a 6hr drive for us. I asked the pediatrician today what she thought about travelling and she said she'd prefer he didn't. I told DH and OMG, he flipped out, proceeded to call his mother and his sister who apparently both freaked out and his sister "went on a rant" about our dr. So long story short, he calls the dr's office and gets them to tell him a car trip is ok, just no plane trips.
I'm pissed because where the hell do his mom and sister get off getting all freaked out and pissed about us possibly not being able to go? This is OUR baby!!! I just think they (and that includes DH) are unbelievably selfish. They want what they want and come hell or high water, they get their way. Of course now my own mother says I'm disregarding my baby's safety to please DH. I just want to crawl under a rock and scream. I'm just so angry.
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Re: Why does everyone have an opinion on what's best for MY baby? (vent)
I am the first to say that you know what is best for LO. That being said, DH and I drove 14 hours to Oregon to visit family when DS was seven weeks. He slept most of the way, was happy and did really well. If that provides any sort of reassurance that your LO will be OK if you do decide to go.
I feel for you though, you and DH should be on the same page and I HATE it when DH disagrees and then runs straight to his mom - it royally pisses me off.
I'm curious why it would be a bad idea as well. I can see a plane trip, since planes are very germy and its flu season, but the car? Besides being a PITA, I can't imagine its unsafe.
That said, I think it should be a discussion between you and DH and no one else needs to be involved in that discussion. His family flipping out would be enough for me to put my foot down.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
I can't believe she wouldn't let you ask your entire question before answering. My OB said it's best not to have the baby around a ton of people, but that it will be the holidays so you just have to take precautions (washing hands before holding baby, not letting sick people hold him (duh), etc).
Don't worry about what anyone says. Just do what you think is right.
Sorry to hear that about your in-laws and DH. Are they freaking out 'cause they haven't seen the baby yet or just being obnoxious? If they want to see the baby and you two, tell them to drive 6 hours to your house. I don't think I'd want my LO in a car seat for 6 hours even with breaks when he's still so little.
Good Luck.. Hopefully you and DH can work something out.
LOL, yep, I was kind of annoyed at his reaction but then when he started talking about how his mom and sister freaked out, that's when I got PISSED. Now I'm just waiting for him to come home. I've pretty much given up any hope of not going on this trip but we definitely need to discuss this whole business about his family flipping out. *sigh* So not looking fwd to that.
Option 2.
Seriously, we've been having this "argument" since before the baby was even born. When DH mentioned that we might not be able to come up for the holidays, MIL got a seriously CROSS look on her face and I knew we were going to have problems when the time came and boy was I right.
I really don't know what to do at this point. I knew that when it came down to it, they'd put on the pressure and that this would be an issue and I had a feeling that when all was said and done, they'd get their way. I'm just afraid of setting a precedent.
I understand how you are feeling!
Sometimes, people don't realize the work it takes to get lo in a schedule, per say. Now, my lo is not on a schedule, but it throws me off when I spend the day at grandma's with her. Whether she poops more, sleeps less, etc, it throws off our routine for the day. I can't imagine a six hour drive with a lo!
Maybe you are like me, I'd rather get on a plane than drive (I just don't like road trips and I'm not suggesting a plane ride because that's definitely a no, no).