I can't sleep because I am scared

weelass24 · November 2009

of something happening to Oisin. I can't stop thinking about ketamarie and her baby. I can hardly see I am crying so hard.

someone please talk sense into me because I can resonwith myself.

I could not live if he wasn't.

help me please becaus e I feel like I am losingmy shiit

aggie_teacher · November 2009

The truth is, there's nothing you can do to prevent something so horrible. Isn't that awful?

Just hug him, and love him, and thank God for him every second.

mrs_kelly1014 · November 2009

I could not stop sobbing yesterday when I first read her post. I still cry every time I think about her and what she and her DH are going through. I can't even imagine. I don't want to imagine. I don't know how I would go on. Truly, I can't even fathom it.

My heart is broken for her and I so desperately with there was something that could be done that would miraculously take away her pain and bring back her sweet baby boy. Crying

StephanieBride1 · November 2009

I can tell you, I know how you feel. I feel so out of control sometimes. I am crippled with fear that something is going to happen to my baby and there is nothing I can do about it. He knows you love him. You are a wonderufl mother and he knows it.

BeerFlu · November 2009

1) Normal reaction. Completely.

2) Remember that statistics are on your side. Most babies and children do not die. Most people do not experience the loss of a child. It can and does happen, but the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor.

3) IF something horrible did happen, there is nothing you can do about it. All you can do it snuggle and love your baby as much as he will let you.

4) IF something horrible did happen, you will deal with it then. Since it hasn't happened (and you have no logical reason to suspect that it WILL happen), there is no point in worrying about it. Instead of worrying, go scoop him up and cuddle him. That always helps me. And I while I cuddle Z, I thank God for her (you can thank whomever, it doesn't matter), and I whisper to her how much I love her.

(((((((hugs))))))))

I was so afraid of losing Z. My friend lost her baby at 4m (1w adjusted), and having that in the back of my mind made it worse. I fully expected her to be dead every time I walked into her room. I still check to make sure she's breathing before I go to bed. But if I worried as much as I would like to, I wouldn't have time for her, nor would I have the energy to enjoy her. All you can do is love him.

jenerally? · November 2009

at some point, you have to let go of your fear because otherwise you will stifle him.

you have to trust that things happen for a reason. And you cannot live every moment in fear that something terrible will happen. Instead, you have to trust that you will be strong enough to handle it if something DOES happen, but in the meantime the chances of something like this happening to you are so infinitesimal that you chalk it up to a good lesson to be learned and move on.

Bad stuff happens every day and you don't internalize it because you can't. You just can't.

Your soul walks around outside of your body now. What you feel is NORMAL. But letting it rule your life is not healthy.

lo45fd98wq32 · November 2009

I know I don't neccesarily have the place to say this, as I am not a mother, and therefore don't understand the way you feel quite yet. But, as a person with anxiety problems, I feel like I can say something.

All I know is that in the end, reacting this way does not help anyone. I know it's normal and natural, and I expect you to feel worried and anxious. We all do, and sometimes, we get so consumed with it, that it's hard to think of anything else. It's like a magnet.

But the only way, and the BEST way, to honor his memory and accept the situation is to use it for good. You use it to make the most of every day, for this very reason. Life happens, and it makes no sense, and I can't guarantee that every life will be without tragedy or sadness. What I do know, though, is that you're a great mother, with a happy and wonderful son who loves you. That is what matters. That is what you focus on.

Call me if you need anything ok?

RachelG83 · November 2009

I was trying to think of something to say but everyone else covered it up there.

It'll be ok. I hope you get some rest!!

weelass24 · November 2009

Thanks girls. My heart is breaking in a thousand pieces for her and I don't even "know" her here.

I'm a mess because the anxiety was coming back before this and it's not helping. Plus AF showed up and kept me up half the night with cramps. I'm a disaster with no sleep on a good day, so add all that other stuff in plus a sappy movie and I am toast.

I love you all so so much. Thank you for everything tonigh. I am going to try to get some sleep.

Be on tomorrow

synchrosally · November 2009

I'm sorry you feel like this. It's scary to think about. Just know that you are doing the best you can for your child to protect him from everything under your power. Enjoy your time with him and give him a big hug today from all of us. Turn to your family for support. ::big hugs::

soontobeBailey · November 2009

I'm glad to know that I am not the only one who is still trying to wrap thier head around the whole situation. My heart absolutely aches for keta and her family. It just hits real close to home, you know?? I am trying to turn this into a positive and use it as a scary reminder to hug my baby girl even more than I already do and appreciate every moment that I have with her. If you are the praying kind, you could send up a little prayer for comfort when thoughts of ketamarie and her family sneak into your head. that's what I am trying to do, but then I end up in tears again because I am so heartbroken for them.

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